Practical Tips on How to Overcome Masturbation Addiction
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If patients feel like they masturbate too much and do not know how to stop masturbation, here is a way put. Porn addiction and masturbation go hand in hand, and they have become a serious issue that millions of people all around the world across all ages and both sexes suffer from. A lot of people are addicted to masturbation, and they are constantly wondering how they can stop this habit as they often hate themselves after the deed is done.
The urge to masturbate is a natural one especially in adolescence as it signifies interest in sex before embarking on adult sexual relationships. Masturbation is a shortcut to get the natural gratification that comes with reproduction. But when it becomes an obsession or a reason for constant self-loathing, then perhaps it is time to cut down on this self-service. There are so many negative effects of masturbation and amongst them are:
- Long-term depression.
- Difficulty in real life sex.
- Tiredness and Fatigue.
How to stop a masturbation addiction?
One can stop masturbation addiction in a few ways:
- Stop punishing oneself and don’t be despondent
- Remove triggers that tempt one to masturbate
- Find other outlets for one’s time and energy
- Be persistent and patient
- Seek professional help
Can one get professional help for masturbation addiction?
Yes, there are professional counseling programs for masturbation addiction. The most effective counseling programs for overcoming masturbation addiction are the ones that incorporate holistic, emotional, and mental approaches.
Perhaps the most common issue with masturbation addiction, especially in married couples, is how it affects one’s relationship with the partner. They soon start to feel neglected, inadequate and frustrated. The following addresses how to stop masturbation and it does not focus on issues such as why people want to stop masturbating or whether or not it is healthy. There are so many ways to confront the masturbation problem, but they are all very likely to fall under one of these categories.
- Stop punishing oneself: Remember that masturbation is actually a natural urge, and as human beings, people always have these sexual urges and neither of these things makes them less of a person or any less worthy compared to anyone. Don’t allow oneself to enter into despondency as this is mostly a waste of time; time that could have been spent relinquishing oneself of the addiction. So take it a step at a time and realize that there is help; the situation is not helpless.
- Remove the things that bring temptation to masturbate: Top of the list of things that brings temptation to masturbate is pornography, so one has to rid oneself and the immediate environment of any pornographic content. Also, one should control access to this content. If one is observant enough to know the specific times and instances, one mostly gets the urge to masturbate, try to get busy with other things at those times. Some people recommend exercising as this gives a release of its own and leaves a person exhausted to do much else. If one masturbates frequently as a result of loneliness, find ways to limit solitude. Do things that usually do alone in the company of others and public places. Don’t lock oneself up indoors all day.
- Find another outlet for time and energy: Fill life with engaging activities. The excitement of doing something different and meeting set goals and objectives can help replace the urge to masturbate, and there are a lot more distractions that can keep one’s mind off it. The process of turning one’s sexual urges into creative output is something that monks and sages have mastered, and it is called sublimation. This is something one can utilize on a scale that one is capable of. There are a lot of things that one can invest time and energy to such as writing, learning to play an instrument, drawing, etc. This takes discipline and persistence, and no one ever said it was going to be easy. Research has also shown that the way one lives can either increase or decrease the self-control when it comes to dealing with addictions.
- Be persistent and patient: Stopping masturbation is not something that can be done instantly. It is a process that requires commitment, and one might fall to temptation and relapse on occasion. Don’t beat oneself up when this happens. One can also set up a reward system to reward oneself for good behavior and achievement in terms of how long one goes without masturbating. When one keeps a record of how long one has gone without masturbating, the longer the record stays, the harder it is for one to engage in activity that will ruin that record. Doing this introduces a new motivation which can help one go over the finish line. A desire to keep record and pride in how long one has abstained will eventually overwhelm the desire to masturbate, and at this point, the battle over addiction is almost won.
- When all else fails, seek professional help: Help can be found in community and counseling. The community can take the form of support groups, online forums, and accountability partners.
A quote from the book, Will Power by Kelly McGonigal says:
Go public with willpower challenges, if one believes others are rooting for the success and keeping an eye on behavior, one will be more motivated to do the right thing
There are plenty of benefits in being part of a community. With community, one realizes that is not alone and can draw strength from others that are either facing the same issues as one or are actively trying to help one overcome addiction. This can be very empowering.
There is a lot of research into curbing masturbation addiction, and some new studies are proving to be promising. Counseling is another great way to overcome the addiction. There are different approaches to counseling, but the most effective ones are those which incorporate a holistic approach to helping a patient, not only mentally and emotionally, but also incorporate the physical, spiritual and social aspects that affect willpower. Getting help from others can be especially difficult with masturbation addiction as there is a lot of shame that comes with it, but one has to overcome that shame if a person is serious about getting help. There are so many people with the same problem, and seeking help is a brave step that one should be proud of. Although some people are comfortable enough to ask for help from their spiritual leaders, this is generally not common because sometimes there is a level of judgment that might hinder the recovery process. Professional help is generally preferable as these counselors don’t judge and have extensive experience in dealing with people who are suffering from the same problem.
Is it hard to stop a masturbation addiction?
Yes, it can be hard to stop masturbation addiction. Quitting masturbation is a process that requires commitment and is prone to relapse. Keeping a record and rewarding oneself for good behavior can also be a means of motivation for one to overcome addiction.
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