Practical Tips on How to Overcome Masturbation Addiction

how to overcome marturbation addiction

Important InformationThis information is for educational purposes only. We never invite or suggest the use, production or purchase of any these substances. Addiction Resource and it’s employees, officers, managers, agents, authors, editors, producers, and contributors shall have no direct or indirect liability, obligation, or responsibility to any person or entity for any loss, damage, or adverse consequences alleged to have happened as a consequence of material on this website. See full text of disclaimer.

If patients feel like they masturbate too much and do not know how to stop masturbation, here is a way put. Porn addiction and masturbation go hand in hand, and they have become a serious issue that millions of people all around the world across all ages and both sexes suffer from. A lot of people are addicted to masturbation, and they are constantly wondering how they can stop this habit as they often hate themselves after the deed is done.
The urge to masturbate is a natural one especially in adolescence as it signifies interest in sex before embarking on adult sexual relationships. Masturbation is a shortcut to get the natural gratification that comes with reproduction. But when it becomes an obsession or a reason for constant self-loathing, then perhaps it is time to cut down on this self-service. There are so many negative effects of masturbation and amongst them are:

  • Long-term depression
  • Difficulty in real life sex
  • Self-loathing
  • Tiredness and Fatigue

Table of Contents

How To Stop A Masturbation Addiction?

One can stop masturbation addiction in a few ways:

  • Stop punishing oneself and don’t be despondent
  • Remove triggers that tempt one to masturbate
  • Find other outlets for one’s time and energy
  • Be persistent and patient
  • Seek professional help
Help Line Woman

Hope Without Commitment

Find the best treatment options.
Call our free and confidential helpline

Most private insurances accepted

Marketing fee may apply

Getting Professional Help For Masturbation Addiction

Yes, there are professional counseling programs for masturbation addiction. The most effective counseling programs for overcoming masturbation addiction are the ones that incorporate holistic, emotional, and mental approaches.
Perhaps the most common issue with masturbation addiction, especially in married couples, is how it affects one’s relationship with the partner. They soon start to feel neglected, inadequate and frustrated. The following addresses how to stop masturbation and it does not focus on issues such as why people want to stop masturbating or whether or not it is healthy. There are so many ways to confront the masturbation problem, but they are all very likely to fall under one of these categories.

  1. Stop punishing oneself: Remember that masturbation is actually a natural urge, and as human beings, people always have these sexual urges and neither of these things makes them less of a person or any less worthy compared to anyone. Don’t allow oneself to enter into despondency as this is mostly a waste of time; time that could have been spent relinquishing oneself of the addiction. So take it a step at a time and realize that there is help; the situation is not helpless.
  1. Remove the things that bring temptation to masturbate: Top of the list of things that brings temptation to masturbate is pornography, so one has to rid oneself and the immediate environment of any pornographic content. Also, one should control access to this content. If one is observant enough to know the specific times and instances, one mostly gets the urge to masturbate, try to get busy with other things at those times. Some people recommend exercising as this gives a release of its own and leaves a person exhausted to do much else. If one masturbates frequently as a result of loneliness, find ways to limit solitude. Do things that usually do alone in the company of others and public places. Don’t lock oneself up indoors all day.
  1. Find another outlet for time and energy: Fill life with engaging activities. The excitement of doing something different and meeting set goals and objectives can help replace the urge to masturbate, and there are a lot more distractions that can keep one’s mind off it. The process of turning one’s sexual urges into creative output is something that monks and sages have mastered, and it is called sublimation. This is something one can utilize on a scale that one is capable of. There are a lot of things that one can invest time and energy to such as writing, learning to play an instrument, drawing, etc. This takes discipline and persistence, and no one ever said it was going to be easy. Research has also shown that the way one lives can either increase or decrease the self-control when it comes to dealing with addictions.
  1. Be persistent and patient: Stopping masturbation is not something that can be done instantly. It is a process that requires commitment, and one might fall to temptation and relapse on occasion. Don’t beat oneself up when this happens. One can also set up a reward system to reward oneself for good behavior and achievement in terms of how long one goes without masturbating. When one keeps a record of how long one has gone without masturbating, the longer the record stays, the harder it is for one to engage in activity that will ruin that record. Doing this introduces a new motivation which can help one go over the finish line. A desire to keep record and pride in how long one has abstained will eventually overwhelm the desire to masturbate, and at this point, the battle over addiction is almost won.
  1. When all else fails, seek professional help: Help can be found in community and counseling. The community can take the form of support groups, online forums, and accountability partners.

A quote from the book, Will Power by Kelly McGonigal says:

Go public with willpower challenges, if one believes others are rooting for the success and keeping an eye on behavior, one will be more motivated to do the right thing

There are plenty of benefits in being part of a community. With community, one realizes that is not alone and can draw strength from others that are either facing the same issues as one or are actively trying to help one overcome addiction. This can be very empowering.

There is a lot of research into curbing masturbation addiction, and some new studies are proving to be promising. Counseling is another great way to overcome the addiction. There are different approaches to counseling, but the most effective ones are those which incorporate a holistic approach to helping a patient, not only mentally and emotionally, but also incorporate the physical, spiritual and social aspects that affect willpower. Getting help from others can be especially difficult with masturbation addiction as there is a lot of shame that comes with it, but one has to overcome that shame if a person is serious about getting help. There are so many people with the same problem, and seeking help is a brave step that one should be proud of. Although some people are comfortable enough to ask for help from their spiritual leaders, this is generally not common because sometimes there is a level of judgment that might hinder the recovery process. Professional help is generally preferable as these counselors don’t judge and have extensive experience in dealing with people who are suffering from the same problem.

Is It Hard To Stop A Masturbation Addiction?

Yes, it can be hard to stop masturbation addiction. Quitting masturbation is a process that requires commitment and is prone to relapse. Keeping a record and rewarding oneself for good behavior can also be a means of motivation for one to overcome addiction.

View Sources
  1. http://www.academia.edu/12881926/Neuropsychoanalytic_notes_on_addiction
  2. http://scholarsarchive.byu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1105&context=fhssconference_studentpub

Comments

Leave a comment

  • Abayomi Efuwape
    I’ve been into this from my early stage i need help when never things get bad i feel like sexing anything
    • James
      Sorry bro. I know exactly how you feel
    • Pawan
      Hi can we stop it together actually I wanna say is when ever we feel like mastrubate we talk which each other
  • Jamil
    it is actually a very bad thing I’ll say, to masturbate regularly. it doesn’t feel good after the act and I want to stop it by all means
  • Constance
    Am woman been experiencing the same i really need help because i cnt even date …..
    • Trey
      I have a severe masturbation addiction since 13 I’m 24 now and it’s been a daily thing at times I was going 7-8 times a day on the lonely nights was using it as a aid to fall asleep and to feel good i would stop but get bad urges, longest I’ve been without masturbating a month, and reading this had is giving me the strength to ask for help
      • ignatius
        funny, i am in the same situation. i was introduced into sex an at early age, before i was even aware of it by an older family relative. after getting to 13 yrs, i started masturbating too much, jst even to fall asleep. now am 24 yrs. i have tried to use self made programs to abstain, but i keep coming back to it. i no longer hate myself, but it is affecting my physical sexual life. it gets too much for me to handle at times.
        • Matt
          Hey Mat, this is a tough thing to have to face. My heart goes out to you, aa I started young as well. BiI would encourage you to talj to someone who will listen and who can try to get you some professional help. Depression can worsen if you are dependent on masturbation. Its a cycle. If you are uncomfortable with asking for help directly relating to masturbation, you maybe could ask your parents about getting help for depression from a therapist for depression. Maybe you could get talk-guidance from a professional this way.
        • Kingsley
          When the urge to masturbate comes it is almost impossible to stop. But i have a solution u can try it, one thing about masturbation urge is that d temptation does not last for more than 10mins ,when u are tempted breathe slowly 7 times and say slowly with full concentration ” I am completely free of this habit, harmony and peace of mind reign supreme ” . The temptation to masturbate comes from the mind and once the mind is distracted fully with other activities thay require full concentration it tends to go towards it and brings what you say to pass. It works. And finally a hidden and true fact about you is that YOU ARE MORE POWERFUL THAN YOU THINK, WHATEVER YOU SAY WITH FULL CONCENTRATION YOUR MIND WILL BRING IT TO PASS, i use to masturbate but i have stopped because of these words.
        • prince
          It only take Gods grace to stop an addict.
      • Nomad
        I’m sorry man the same thing with me to. Btw do u have hair loss?
        • burl
          just keep that thing in our pants don’t take it out until you need to that dam simple your hand will thank you an read the bible or read a book go for a walk
      • Joshua Da pianist
        Don’t loose hope am also l like u Lets pray to God
    • evans
      Try to have company when ever you feel like doing it..also try having real sex,it may help you realize that having sex is better than masturbation
    • Love
      Me too I am a male but I enjoys it I don’t drink smoke nothing wrong any one here for marriage . I have no issues related to mstrbation I still enjoys it any one for friendship love
    • Nicholuols
      On my side I feel like its really hard to stop it coz i me as a man I have a small penis which lead me to fear ladies plzz if their is any possibility to help me plzz help me
  • Siren
    I feel so misplaced… I’m a female who has been sort of afraid of sexual interaction my whole life. Recently, I have become addicted to masturbating. I need help, I hate myself.
    • BreeChagz
      Don’t hate yourself just fight it with a smile I’m an addict too, and I think I’m replying this late but hope you are now free
      • Anonymous
        Hey do you got hair loss too, even I M troubled by the same issue. Do you masturbate regularly?
      • Flora
        I really dnt knw y but i have tried sex with a guy but things dnt work out instead i musturbate and at times i swear not to do it again bt i find my self turning back I even got a habbit of loving fellow females since da sex bit of it aint tough so i dnt knw wat to do I love my God buh i feel so unworthy and i lost my confidence n esteem coz of dis burden
        • Traumatized_wanker
          Hey Flora, there’s nothing wrong with liking same gender sex partners more than opposite, really, so if you do that because you prefer women, there’s nothing wrong with you, if you do it because it’s closer and more similar to you masturbating yourself, you should try to fix it
    • zaid
      oh I hate myself too, I mean am only 24 years old and I became an addict to porn for a year now. I really hate myself and I even hate looking at the mirror…….I need to stop.i always thought the reason for my addiction was never having a girlfriend or never been with someone before, but no that’s not the reason I have no excuse
      • Folusho Daniels
        Could this have led to a low sperm count or infertility? I’m scared. Its been about 6 years now and in a month, I could masturbate 20 times which means ive masturbated more than 500 times within the range of these years. So my question is, has it affected me healthwise in terms of having a baby? Be sincere with your answers please!
  • James
    Masturbation is a bad habit
  • Justin
    My addiction is so sever that is borders on binge masturbation, where in I lose hours, sometimes nearly an entire day to masturbation. My self confidence has always been at an all time low and sometimes I feel like I masturbate because I feel I’ll never be good enough for anyone else long term. Sometimes when porn isn’t enough I sext with women I pick up on dating apps. This is a problem and has been from day one. It’s ruining my relationships because regular sex stops being enough and I start to seek sexual stimulation elsewhere. I recently started dating an ex that I’ve been deeply in love with for so long and I don’t want to screw this up again. I want to get better so I can be happy in my own skin, and so that I can build a life with this woman that I love so dearly. I need help. Please.
    • Kahan
      Practice Of Brahmcharya ..- I think this is the best book which can help u..
    • Rijo Jackson Tom
      Go for a confession soon. And take a medical assistance too..
    • Phil
      Sorry budie I noe how you feel. It can be so bad
      • Ania
        Am Ania, I started mustarbating since primary school, throughout highschool after highschool .I started dating and I was hrtbroken and I found my peace in touching my self .it got worse by the day and am afraid ave started liking my fellow girls .I even watch lesbian porn .the problem is that I feel guilty n I know it’s a sin but I can’t help it.am now 24 but I can’t control the urge to touch myself.i need to settle down but am so scared . please help.
    • Kieran
      Hey Justin, I have the same problem as you. Would you like to be accountability partners?
  • Lucy
    I have been struggling with this for a long time every time I do it I feel good but after I hate myself so much I make myself sick I feel like no one will love me if I don’t stop I want to but I keep going back
    • Joseph Aggie
      Hey L you can do it I am also in the same situation and what I know is that by believing that nothing is impossible then everything is possible.
  • John
    I have been struggling with this bad habit, I’ve gotten to a horrible stage till I lost days not sleeping just to watch porn and masturbate, but trying to seek help has gotten me down from days to hardly once for the week. It is Hard but I pray and talk to a particular friend that has told me to go to a set number of days and each week increase the number of days by two and treat yourself when I get to my goal. I’m still struggling at times. The feeling after doing it makes it so much the worse
  • Jakhaya
    I know you can do it. It’s never too late.
    • John kiarie
      i have been trying to quit masturbation in the entire part of my life ,iam 19 years what should i do
      • saim
        bro leave it no w. its not too late .. otherwise u will suffer … and it will be too late .. please make a commitment to urself and it will not be so difficult ..
  • Bj kings
    I need help masturbation is ruining my life
    • NORD ERICK
      just try your level best to finish 4days and u will see some good change
  • john
    pray to God to give you the power to overcome it
    • Nathan
      Thanks. But i find it hard to pray after this stuff
      • Choomy
        And you feel like God will not forgive you for this
      • Mbah Edwin
        Hey, your situation is similar to mine, I got into a bad relationship with a girl which is all my fault and she introduced me into this, I hated myself and wish I never existed or if I could be born back again so I correct my mistakes, I couldn’t pray either because after I pray I still fall into it again, I encountered this problem in 2016and now am turning 21 and still suffering, spiritually is bad because it’s a sin before God, and when the urge comes at times I resist but latter on I fall back into it, one and the same cycle over and over again. I believe God will help us through his son Jesus Christ. This is a very shameful thing, and avoid friends who support it and educate them or the will all die and go to hell for this. I can developed the urge to masturbate if I lust for a girl or watch pornography which is disgraceful. At one point like in my case depression and loneliness is a contributing factor because I have no girlfriend. But I believe with the help of God and his love mercy he will forgive us if we humble our self and summit to him and take the necessary physical actions to fight back our addiction problems ,thanks guys u all gave me hope, now I know so many are suffering from a problem same as mine.
        • tomjones
          What initiates you to masturbate? What are your triggers? Where are you when you feel like masturbating? What do you do when the urge first hits you? How long after sensing the urge do you masturbate?
  • Josh
    I also need help. Been addicted to this habit almost 10 years now. I have tried to stop severally but i keep going back. I feel like it has taken away my belief in self and has also ruined my relationships. I need help now.
  • Chris
    Hello there,thanks for your advice. I do really need help overcoming this issue and I will love more contributions. Thanks
  • sclic
    I usually do it once a week. I try to keep myself from doing it but I am always defeated by the power of addiction.
  • Carl
    Jezz I have Ben wishing, trying, and doing everything possible to quit this act but it just won’t get off my cerebellum. I need a professional help so badly. My health conditions is so bad now because of this act. Help! Help! Desperately in need of help and a way out.
  • Why Name Bro
    Addiction can be stopped by Getting a Good Partner to whom we can Say our Reason and This Addiction . There is a possiblity that together can stop this Forever .
  • o.johnson
    Messagei’ve been battling with this stubborn demon of masturbation for years now may Almighty God save us all, cos i’ve relapsed several times now
  • Faith
    i have also been dealing with this for years now and I’ve only just clocked 18. I wanna try to stop before I cross over to the new year. I ‘ve not masturbates in two days now and it’s been really hard. I just hope I’ll be able to see it through this time
    • Miguel
      Hi hope u achieved your goal will like to here how and resources that helped you achieve them
    • Zach
      Yooo Faith, I hope all is well with You today. But yea, jus like You, I’ve been addicted since a young age but with will power& taking things 1day at a time, You soon will overcome
  • rajesh
    This is not your problem is the devil deceive you to maturbate.
  • Katie
    I have been where all of you guys are, i was addicted, i did it almost every day, multiple times a day, but i got into this program called reformers unanimous (RU) it has really helped me. Now this program is for people with addictions mainly drug and alcohol addictions, but this is also an addiction, God got me out of this addiction and i know He can get you out too, its a terrible addiction and i failed quiting it so many times, but God forgives and forgets, i pray someone will read this and try to get into an ru progam, the truth can set you free!!
    • Lj
      I really needed this and I always felt God hates me when I do this but now seeing how he got you out of this I’m ready for a change.
  • Arinze
    It’s really a strong addiction,i ve been into this for more than 10years and the feelings are always the same afterwards,its one of the strongest addictions known to man,i ve made resolve several times to stop but I ve never gone more than 3weeks or even less without it,recently I had a weak erection while I was playing on the bed with a woman I loved though a virgin but it really scared her and made her have doubts about settling down with me,i really need help and I will go to any extent to get it,i ve gone 5days now since I fapped last,i pray it continues as I need to break this addiction and be fully restored and rebooted before marriage.
  • Sam M
    I’m doing it 2-3 times a day now! I’m surprised I haven’t already gone blind, since I’ve been addicted since junior high. I need help now!
    • Idk
      I do it 7-10 times a day
  • Mike
    I feel disgust of my self at this very moment 🙁 I have been doing this for 20 years I need help I don’t want this in my life anymore
  • Mr. 9ja
    Wow! Didn’t know masturbation addiction was this hell of a deal until I checked this site, especially the comment section. To be fair, I’ve been masturbating since secondary school days up till about a week ago. Between those times, I had tried several times to stop but I just find myself deep in it without feeling remorseful. I’m in a relationship where we have sex maybe twice or thrice a year so I just thought it was one way to complement my sex life and to not make me appear to my girlfriend like a sex slave as well. Just recently, I realized that masturbating was cheating and I wouldn’t tolerate it from my girlfriend after she pranked me with it. Well, I didn’t fight masturbation by fighting masturbation directly. I simply deleted all the porn videos on my phone, got rid of all provocative pictures, ignore sex news and gists online (for this, I gave up Facebook entirely), I also stopped watching secular music videos and even stopped listening to secular songs amongst other things I thought fuel the urge to masturbate. Oh! Lemme not forget, I usually masturbated at night right before I sleep so whenever I want to sleep, I keep my phone sooooooo far away coupled with the zeal that “I want to be a better person”. With all these, I’ve been fighting masturbation so well and easily. I’ve never gone this far. In fact, it has been flawless and looked like a bite of pizza until tonight. I just hope I don’t go back to it.
  • Fest
    By God’s grace with all these comment, i know i can stop masturbation because i usually hate myself same time feeling remorse after the demonic act “masturbation. I am physically challenge i.e having my left leg bad. so i always feel so shy to approach woman of my choice and this make’s me indulge in masturbation. I pray for God deliverance by giving me a woman that will love me for whom i am. I will start self discipline over this from now on.
  • Phil
    After watching a porn movie on the 1st of January 2008, I couldn’t help it but masturbate. That is how my long disgraceful journey started. It’s 10 years now and I’ve been trying to quit but every time I find myself back to it again. Now I can do it more than 10 times a day and I hate myself so much. After all these wasted 10 years, My 2019 resolution is to get rid of this addiction. I regret
  • Augustine Garibah
    I have been in this act for over eleven to twelve years. This addiction is really ruling my life. I have tried my best to over it but I can’t pls I need help..it destroying me gradually…
  • Andy Shriner
    Please help me. I am addicted to narcotics, smoking pot, pornography and I masturbate constantly. I can’t hold down a job. I have smoked marijuana since I was 14 and Im 65 now. Please help me.
    • Peter
      Andy, at 65 and having been addicted for a very long time, you obviously have coped in some ways…i get that employment issues seem to have been a much bigger problem…but you probably should just relax and enjoy the rest of your life doing what you are doing even though it has some negative consequences…focus more on the positive and practice harm-reduction on the negatives…it just depends on you…but of course, get professional help if you can afford it.
    • Polly
      Just Give your life to Christ…you will see the difference
  • Vanesa
    I’m so happy i know i’m not alone in this. I’m addicted too, and i have never told anyone. I’m so ashamed because of it. Guys, i feel your pain. I tried to fight my demons but they always win, no matter how hard i try. But, i found out that loneliness is the worst thing if you are addicted to masturbation. If anyone want to talk about it, I’m here.
    • Pete
      Been struggling with masturbation since I was like 13, I’ve tried to quit many times too but I just relapse. I thought I was alone till I found this site while looking for a way out of my addiction
    • collinz
      This evil act has been part of my life 4 over 8yrs upto now….though em trying hard to abstain, i keep on falling back. whenever em abt to masturbate or after masturbating i feel bad…. iam now 24yrs old, i have no girlfrnd and i think ts because of masturbation…I feel ashamed,em shy and dnt quickly associate with people because of this evil act..i reallly need someone to talk to, who is also have same experience….thnkz
    • jon hunt
      Hi Vanesa, I quite agree with you regards loneliness playing a part with this addiction, I’m married and not had sex with my wife for many years, masturbation keeps me sain to a degree. Regards Jon
    • Dennis
      Hi Vanesa ..My name is Dennis …I’m 65 years old …and addicted to masturbation. I do it everyday ..and if I lived alone , I would do it all day. I enjoy watching porn …esp. transgender porn. I get so excited about a beautiful woman with a penis …I’m not gay …but, for some reason I really like the thought of being with someone like that. I think it has alot to do with being sexually molested when I was a child. My neighbor used to force me to give him oral sex. Thanks for letting me reach out to you about this …I’m embarrassed to even think about discussing this issue with anyone else. Thanks Dennis
    • Soumya
      How did u rid of this addiction completely even I m a gym freak but still I did this whole creep stufff how to overcome this fantasy and for long period I have stopped for shorter period of one to two month then it backs again as devil how to kill this devil due to this i ahve offended Infront of girls
  • Steven
    I have been wanking since I was about 13-14,and I’m still doing it 37 years later.If I could quit forever it would be great.Like all addictions it is hard to give up,i think I need too seek some kind of help with this.Good luck to everyone trying to give up.
  • Ronny
    masturbation is not good
  • Hope
    I started masturbating before I even knew what it was or that it was wrong. Now I’m a young adult and I understand it isn’t right. I’m always overwhelmed with remorse afterwards, it’s just so hard to stop. I’m going to college in a few months and I need to break this addiction before then. Plus, I met the most amazing guy. He’s saved himself for marriage completely. I don’t feel like I’m good enough for him.
  • Frank
    I have been doing it for 10 year,but now I want to stop it
  • tundey
    have gone a week without masturbation for the first time in 9years am more determined than ever
  • darko michael
    I have done this for 12 years , wanna stop.
  • David
    Well I believe there is a way we could help one another ,I’m also suffering from this addiction I have been in the act for years and am afraid I might never stop. What triggers my urge is when am bored or alone and I think we could help one another since we all suffer from the same problem,I propose if we could have like a group or something the we could talk abt our issue i.e like a Whatsapp group so when one of us gets the urge we could talk abt it in the group and distract one another till the urge passes
    • mike
      thats a great idea
    • JC
      Hi. Just curious, did group happen? I have been struggling with this since I was a teen and like many others had no idea it was wrong tell I got older. I know the advice is to talk to someone about it but I’m just to embarrassed and ashamed to discuss it with any of my close friends. But I really want to stop. I can only go a week without mastrubating and I’d really really like to go longer.
    • Eddie
      Yes it’s a great idear We all need to agree and creat a watsapp page so that we can advice each other from doing it.
    • kelvin kisanga
      How do u propose we do this?
  • NC
    I have been in masturbation a long time that is affecting my health, I have weight los, low sperm, watering sperm, memory los, poor vision, unable to have natural sex intercourse, sperm leakage. please you guys should help me please please
  • shncast
    I have been experiencing the same addiction and I know there’s no way I can help myself but God. I believe the thing that triggers us most to do it is our thinking. And we all should start to track our thinking and ask God for help to Put Off evil thoughts and replace or put on Godly thoughts. I haven’t done it yet, but reading some comments here are a blessing. For me too it comes to mind when I’m bored, or dream something about sex, hear a word related to sexing, etc. Am I in a worst condition? Bringing this struggle before God as He has promised that His children are never losers.
  • SWA
    I’m a 34-year old woman. I started doing this in 2004, and it got pretty bad. I felt guilty about it even after the first time, but I couldn’t stop. Some night, I couldn’t go to sleep without it. I’ve been trying to stop ever since the first time. I know God doesn’t want me to do this. It’s not how He designed sex to be. I’m thankful for a husband who understands that I’m trying to quit. Unfortunately, he’s not super interested in sex himself. It’s like God wants me to fight this and get self-control instead of relying on him. The worst part is that I do even though my head screams at me that God hates it, but I do it anyway. Knowingly sinning is the worst of the worst. It isn’t even about the masturbating at that point. It damages my relationship with my God who loves me. There are days when I feel like I can’t even pray because I feel so guilty. I had made a little progress in the last few years. I was able to go 4-6 weeks sometimes without doing it. But now that I’m pregnant and there’s more blood flow down there and my hormones are crazy, it’s gotten worse again. It’s not like I help myself though- I think about terrible things that trigger myself. I don’t need porn or movies or anything. It’s all in my own nasty head. I give in to my thoughts and let them win. After each time, I tell myself that next time, I need to pray instead or get up or go to a public spot or tell my husband. But so far, I never listen to my own advice. If I don’t do it, it’s been just because I made an effort of will not to. That is…pretty difficult to say the least, but I do feel better about myself when I’m able to do that.
    • Prof.John
      sorry,I Know how you really feel.if it’s in your nasty thoughts then you have to change the way of thinking consult a health therapist for further assistance
  • oscar
    i have masturbated for long,I am dying pains every where please help
  • David
    Reading all this comment give me some hope that I can stop masturbating, i have been doing this demonic acts since three years ago, but now am determined to stop and I pray God will help me to stop this stupid act.
  • Jzm
    I am a 21yr old female who has recently started masturbating (19). I can do it every day for hours at a time sometimes up to 4 hours continuously, or once a week for twice as long. I didn’t realize I had an addiction until recently. When I begin to masturbate I can’t stop. I lose sleep because of it and I never really feel relieved. Does anyone have any advice
  • Bro K
    Wow ! There’s a demon behind the act of masturbation. You need believe in God to start, that Jesus is Lord, His Blood was shed on the cross of Calvary for the forgiveness and redemption of our sin. You now pray against the demon of masturbation to get out of your life both spiritual and physical. Make sure you read the Bible to build your faith so as to get results. May God help you all.
  • Bro K
    Wow I’d to say demons are behind the masturbation addiction or act . The only solution here is to seek the deliverance from God so one can be free the strong hold. First is to believe in God. Proclaim our Lord Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and savior. Check John 3:16-17. John 16: 33 Jesus already overcone the world , that we all should be of good cheer ! Pray fervently with faith . Pray against the the demon of masturbation to get out of your life both physical and spiritual. With faith it’s done. Precaution please read the Bible daily and keep Christian friend, it will help. Praise God!
  • sñr_guest
    I have been doing it for 10 year,but now I want to stop it
  • PQRSTUVWXYZ
    hey there! I am an athlete, i am just 14 yrs. i have been into masturbation for 2 yrs now. due to this, I am not able to focus in my game, my stamina becomes low and i am having acne all over my face . I haven’t talked about this to anyone just because I am scared if they might judge me. at the beginning , I tried many things to get rid of this mess but every time I tried I failed. i just wish u guys have some advise to give me
    • Andy
      Hello! I’ve been reading all the comments and I think I related a lot with yours. I’m 30 years old, I starting to masturbate and watch porn and later camgirls at 13. I’ve been struggling with this for 17 years now. When I was younger, I used to masturbate a lot (4 or 5 times per day) and constantly I was sexualizing everything, which brought me problems to socialize. But, being honest, the thing that I most regret is how to masturbate affected my physical health; I used to play soccer and baseball and being good in both, but in the most important time, when you are developing your body and you must train a lot to exceed, I was expending most of my time lock in my house watching porn and masturbating.IF YOU LOVE TO DO SPORTS, please make this your main focus and priority, you are very young. Try, by all means, to find what trigger you the desire to masturbate and attack it. I blocked all the porn sites from my phone and from my computer, at the same time, when I feel the desire, immediately I do something else (some exercises, meditate, write) and, by all means, if you have a close friend, talk to him/her. I never had the opportunity or the confidence to talk about this when I was young, that’s why I telling you, talk to someone you trust.
  • JJC
    I’ve been addicted to this Act since God knows how long, and its getting me scared…. I’m a guy that has everything most women would want in a man, but I really don’t pay minds to women, and i hardly keep relationships for long… Cus I have this belief I can satisfy (sexualy) whenever I want. Its getting out of hand, and I’m scared for the future…
  • Justin
    I’m a 50yr bi male I have been addicted to masturbation for 40 years now. I masturbate 3 times a day and can’t stop! It’s not just porn I masturbate to fantasies in my mind. I grew up masturbate to porn with other friends. I think about masturbating every second of the day. I don’t know what to do. I am married and I even masturbate after having sex with my wife.
  • I know
    Anytime I watch porn I do masturbate. Watching porn is an addiction and it always leads to masturbation. Please I need help. How do I stop watching porn?
  • Devin
    I am young and have been exposed to a lot of sexual content when I was a child. I am in my late teens now and I realize that my sexual tendencies are hazardous to my relationships, both friendly and romantically. I have even gone to the point of secretly taking pictures of my classmates in college because it stimulates me a lot more than pornography because it is someone that I know and find attractive, and it disgusts me that I do that. I think that if I were to get the masturbation aspect under control, I could help the second part more as well. I want to know if there is anyway to get rid of the urge to do things that I simply shouldn’t do.
  • G
    I’ve been very it for 4years now… I’m a student and going to someone is somewhat impossible. I know that I need help but can’t I talk/chat with the person online
  • Rahul
    I am also suffering from this addiction since i was 15 years of age. Now i am 31 years. Almost 16 years passed. Each time i masturbate i feel guilty. I get drowned in the ocean if guilt. I also feel week after i masturbate. Every time i do it i decide that it will be my last time. But again after 2 -3 Days i end up watching porn and masturbating. I want to come out of this addiction. I want to look good. This article is helping me a lot. I think one day i will come out of this addiction.
  • sammy
    am addicted to it but sometime i do over come wen the urge comes but it always take by the grace of God for me to overcome, pls i really need help & am ready to stop no matter wat it takes me to do.
    • Nick
      Hi,I’m also addicted but here is an advice,try doing some thing during your free hours.and hangout more with friends then being alone,try read the bible and get to know god more trust me when I say,there will be a change in your life.
  • Nice narry
    I need help I really want to stop this addiction of masturbation and porn watching each time I try always fall back of tired of the kind of life I am living
  • Geoffrey
    Medical quest brought me to start masturbating, ever since then it has been hell to quit. Please I need help… Will masturbate once or twice then stop for like a month before relapsing.
  • jolene helen
    please I really need to stop this sinful masturbating attitude,I’ve been into it for years now.. please any advice would be welcome thanks
  • erambo
    the craziest thing is that i dont just know how to stop this demonic act of watching porno, when ever am angry i start masturbating . its bex a long tine since i started masturbating ,and it has affected my life negatively in so many ways . expecially when it comes to social aspect . guys please if there anyone out there who can help me please i really need it ..
  • Sid
    Need your help want mastrubation medcine to stop this
  • Pat
    I have mastrubating for a long time. Some days I’ll mastrubate as much as three times. I’m like the rest of y’all l need help to stop. I’v been married for 10 years to very attractive lady and when lm around her I want sex even more. I think I could have sex all day long if possible but being a male this is not possible. This is taking all my focus away from my business and everyday life. If I could turn as much focus on more important things as I do on mastrubating I could be very wealthy. How do I get help?
  • Isaac
    I’m really scared now cause I don’t know where this is leading… I need serious help now.please. I’ve been doing this for the past 3years now..somebody help!!
  • Isaac
    I really find it hard to with go the habit but I find myself pushed back to it, letting go has been difficult and I don’t know really what to do. It’s prayer always that may that merciful God give strength to quit the habit but it’s ruining my life every now and then cos I can’t talk to anyone about it, I just find myself ashamed… Any constructive advice would be appreciated
    • Rahul
      I recentlt controlled it for one week. Today again i did the same. I had strong urge, then porn then masturbate. Three hours wasted. Now next time i will try it a bit harder . Avoiding masturbation for more than one month will be my next challange. Thank you all.
  • Danny
    I’ve been masturbating since the age of 5. That’s was my earliest memory of it. I don’t know why or how but I’m tired of it. I don’t know if anything happened to me as a child but masturbating and feeling like you have no control over it is exhausting mentally and physically. I feel so disgusting afterwards and I always punish myself for it. I need help.
  • Tell u later
    Hello I’ve been masturbating since I was 9 that was 21 years ago. I’ve tried to quit many times, 1st I found that I was ashamed and I burned all of my magazines. Then I decided I wanted to have a higher sex drive so I tried to abstain and ever since I burnt my magazines the longest I’ve been able to go is 2 to 3 days. I just got off work I’m 32 years old and I’m planning on masturbating When I get home. I don’t really feel ashamed anymore it helps me with depression. It’s nice to have a release. But I find the my desire for sex is going down. Sex is getting to the point where it’s not as desirable. What am I saying I love sex I want sex I just it’s never as exciting as I think it is going to be. After years of porne I find that my expectations far exceed the actual ality. I’m not overly religious… I believe in God but that’s a story for another time. I don’t know if I’m supposed to talk about this or what to do. I’m an intellectual and I’m Intra verted, I have a girlfriend but I’m not overly attracted to her. I think if I stopped masturbating I could perform better for her. I just really don’t know what to do. I think it’s time to stop, But I don’t want to. I don’t trust people anymore… I just want to do what feels good. Would love to talk to somebody.
  • Future
    The only difference between achieving and failure is quitting sometimes we feel that we are down but that’s not the real Truth.Masturbation can brainwash somebody tend to drive the desire we only want .But the real and the truth is for all those people who want to stop masturbation is it all start in the mind train the mind not to do it slow by slow it get used like how slow by slow you got to be addicted. Play with the psychology of the mind speak to your mind that you have a battle to fight,a battle that the writer wrote you as the star,so no matter what you must win.You have no choice but to win. This will not only be for being able to fight with the addiction but you will be able to fight more battle in the future.If only all the affected could look at the brighter future then we could prepare for better and not for worse.. If anyone would like us to face this together then you can reach me
    • R
      Thank you for what you’ve said Future. I agree, completely, the only true failure is the one where you give up, it just makes so much sense. You have to decide to win, to come out of that valley, and seek those high points, perspective is everything. I remember doing a presentation on this sort of thing. Talking to the class about, How success has obstacles along the way, and hardships, mistakes, But in the end, it still comes out as success, and achievement. You have to take a look at what your doing the whole ‘addiction-recovery’ process for. Why do you want to stop your addiction? Bit by bit, day by day, take steps, however big or small in that direction, and be patient, because if you are, you’ll step out from that valley that’s kept you down for however long it’s been. Honestly, it makes so much sense to me, this process of recovery, in theory, but sadly I can’t make all these statements and claim that’s what I’ve done, cause then, I would be a hypocrite. I struggle with this addiction too. I am addicted, there I’ve said it. But I do want it to come to an end, because whenever I do ‘the deed’ it leaves me feeling guilty and stuck and trapped, unable to move on. I’ve tried to start recovery(kind of) by doing more things, like learning to draw and playing guitar, but still, I fall back on it. I also feel pretty lonely at times, and I don’t really ‘hang out’ or talk with people or friends much, and I’ve heard that is one of the most Important parts of Recovery… So, if anyone wants to ride along with me on this ‘road to redemption’, send me an email or something. One other Thing is, I’m struggling to get closer to God and… I hope I can get to know him along the way, I’ve heard he is good. I’ll pray for you all tonight and just for better days. Thanks for the Encouragement. :]
  • Rahul
    Last time i masturbated 4days back. Today i was having strong urge to do it. But i controlled it because the guilt after doing that act is huge. I kept myself busy in my work, studies. I am trying to control it for 1 month this time. I am feeling good now. Good Night and take care all
  • Willpower
    I think you should leave this habit of masturbation. you will feel better. And also it will help you in maintaining good relationship with your girlfriend and maybe wife if you get married.
  • Choomy
    Am a 19 year old girl ,am also addicted to masturbating am trying to stop it but l cannot.l no longer want it, l usually regret myself after doing it l need help
  • Moses
    I am victim too. My problem started one day when I was surfing the internet with my phone when it happened that i came into a certain pornography website. Since then my sexual life has been like (2012 till now). I have really try had to overcome it but i always fall back into this same temptation. It’s kind of a bondage, a war in my life. I want to stop it and I don’t know what to do and how to. am always down after am done with it, hate myself, depressed and worried. I have tried all I could but with no avail. It makes me cry.
  • Feathers
    I’ve been masturbating since I was a teen. I grew up in a Mormon household, so there was some measure of shame felt. After leading home and stopping religious activities, I found my shame at the deed went away. I’ve never really felt there was anything wrong with it, brings an acknowledgement that I masturbated in excess.It wasn’t until my first marriage that I found out one of the consequences of frequent, excessive masturbation was, at least for me: I couldn’t orgasm from sex. At least not easily.I feel no shame, depression, guilt, etc. It is undoubtedly a problem for me, one I need to overcome.
  • Christopher
    I have been doing for the pass 5yrs and hate doing that, I don’t know what to do anymore, some one help me
  • Jake
    You dont have to look at porn to have the desire to masterbate,im think it has more to do with Hormons, Ever human on Earth has them,I think some foods trigger HORMONES, like soybean,which has Estrogen,I am 55 an have fought the desire to masterbate since I was 7yrs old.I sought God on this all my life,I found no where in Gods Word that says masterbation is a sin,
    • evans
      Don’t worry I suffrer from the same problem.we can talk if you want
  • Busy Brain
    Am suffering from it since many years ago, I do hate my life after it, and it’s also affecting my love life, I don’t know what to do, pls I need help.
  • Stilonzy vipper
    I always try to stop but i could not, i dont always masturbate everyday may be foristance if i do it do may be two or three weeks that pleasure comes, and i know dat i can stop it but i need yr directions and prayer help me
  • Rasty
    whenever I masturbate I feel guilty, I get low self esteem I started this 5yrs ago n life doesn’t seem normal as it used to be, whenever I see a Lady I start imagining her naked,just because of watching a lot of porn. buh masturbation has caused me alot of stress I really want 2 get rid of this vice
  • Shreyas
    I am 32 yr male, so badly engrossed in masturbation since more than 4 years after my break up. I do it daily and even 1-3 times mostly. I tried so hard to stop but all gone in vain. The disasterous effect of masturbation eventually I relaized when I did not get proper erection while trying for sex recently with my girlfriend. This happened at multiple times we met. She is beautiful and hot. It was so emabarassing to me. Even if i got some erection it was too lose and short timed. There was the days I used to have so good erection and so wonderful sex life with my ex, but this excessive masturbation somewhere definitely ruined me inside. Guys, beleive me overmasturbation plays such a deterimental effect on your mental and sexual health, probably not less than alcohol/drug addiction, no matter how many articles you would have read on net that masturbation is normal and have no harm. I am the living example. I am still struggling to get over it. I feel now scared even to think about marrying or having a girlfriend, seeing my present sexual performances. Now my only saviour is GOD, going to renounce him with full faith. I pray for each one of you to get over this addiction soon…
  • El
    I’ve Been In This Acty For 5years But Now I’ve Started Hating My Self About This Cos It Is Affecting Me Emitionally,physically,spiritually And Mentally.
  • Kola
    We believe in you! And what matters even more is that you believe in you! And with the great power of the Lord on your side, you can do this! Pray daily for strength and note when you are tempted and make it a point to read the Bible as soon as you arrive home alone, for instance, or put on some inspirational, classical, or gospel music. That’s what I do and it works! And don’t forget to thank the Lord every time he helps you overcome a temptation. Each time you do this, he will strengthen you even more against the adversary!
  • Addict
    I don’t want to believe that I’m an addict like all of you here but truthfully speaking I am.I started with this act at a very young age (12) and I was introduced to it by my two cousins I blame myself for continuing because right now its really bas,I watch porn on the bus and masturbate in shopping malls damn.But for some reason I still believe that I can beat this addiction.
  • Tally
    Hey Guys.Y’all need to stop Worrying about musturbation addiction.the only way is to pray to God whenever you feel tempted may you all quit in Jesus name.
  • Ed
    I just got engaged (super excited), but as part of that, I’m determined to break this addiction.It’s been 3 weeks now, and I can already see a change on my life – I’m happier, and she’s commented, “I can’t explain it, but you seem more into me!”.I almost caved tonight, but I’ve told myself that I always want to be able to say that I haven’t jerked it since before we got engaged.Create a date with some signifigance, make the decision to STOP, and scroll through these comments whenever you get the urge!Also, I know it’s serious, but people saying masterbation is the devil just made me think of Bobby Boucher’s mom in The Waterboy haha
  • Donald
    Sorry Trey but my story sounds the same as yours i want to get rid of it too
  • Vic
    I started when I was 5 after I was first sexually abused. Is there anyone else who started so young in the same circumstances? I have so often felt alone.
  • Charles Allan
    Hmmmm! It’s really something else in one’s life. I have suffered this the past 23years. But I realise it gets better when am engaged in an activity. It feels very embarrassing after the act. Much loneliness is one major cause. Pornography is another outstanding cause of masturbating.I cant imagine how happy I will be without this disgrace. It is demonic and will take the intervention of the Holy Spirit. Amen!
  • Nobodyimportant
    I’ve been masturbaiting for almost four years now. I’m so ashamed to say it and it’s probably my biggest secret. It seemed like a good idea at first and I thought it was harmless but now I’m addicted. It makes me so upset I’m sad for days on end and I don’t want to eat after I do it. Ugh it’s awful I hate it and i feel so guilty for it. I just don’t know what to do.
  • Ian Kola
    It sounds like many people on this forum have a wife or girlfriend. Something that has really helped with my wife and I is to keep the conversation open, she encourages me to always let her know how I am doing and she is very supportive! Sex was created by God for reproduction and sharing love with an eternal partner. When you think about sex like this, and your love for your partner and even try putting yourself in your partners shoes, you will be able to overcome this! Never stop praying for help and remember to thank Him when you have had success! He will bless you with self control, confidence, and happiness in life! Everyone here is a child of God and I believe in all of you 100%!!
  • Mr j
    I started masturbating when I was 9years old, am now 20 but I have failed to stop, whenever I try I eventually fail, all my relationships can’t last long because I lose interest after a few weeks due to masturbation. I have low self esteem, I have no confidence. I really need help to overcome this addiction, it’s now 11 years doing the act. I feel this might affect my reproductive organs.
  • dennie
    am just starting to lose self esteem and confidence because of masturbation…its now 12years …i have even found it difficult to date…i need your help?!!
    • peter
      I have same problem as you, can’t date not even bothered to chase girls. I need to stop masterbating but I have no idea how. Only mental strength can help us. Its really a big problem
  • Elijah
    I too having the same suiation on masturbating,but am trying to stop and still going back to it, i want stop it by all means no what it cost.
  • Sam
    I am an porn addicted I masturbate every day I start it in 14, now in 17 I still doing it sometime I masturbate twice a day I hate my self of being porn addicted masturbate cause my hair loss I feel pain in my back I can’t see clearly from far away please help me
  • Samuel
    I’ve spent almost 2hrs reading only these comments. Masturbating since age 13 for about 6 years now even before knowing the word “masturbation”. What I hate most from this apart from depression and guilt is that even as a worker in the church -a keyboardist I feel my services to God is just a waste. This has affected all areas I mean all of my life. Even my academics. This made me loner. I ask God for forgiveness after this act but still fall into it even few hour after. But I’ve stayed about 6 months without masturbating only once. And it became worst after that. And worse even now! But for those time without this addiction, I think masturbation is a spirit that influence the way we live, and that is why you get possessed through some thing-porn movie or anything else. But I think commitment is serving God and developing spiritually the Holy Spirit of The Almighty God is greater that the spirit of masturbation.
  • bob
    I also have the same problem especially during bathing and at night when I want to fall a sleep
  • Pete
    I have the same compulsory disorder and it goes along with many other stress relieving methods like biting fingernails or playing video games. Altogether the stress is what is most severe when I don’t have an outlet, but guys there is might be a solution for you: go to a psychologist, tell him that you have trouble dealing with fears, because they prevent you from performing simple tasks without the urge to escape. This is what i told mine, because i had been missing 4 classes to finish my BA for 3 years – and wasnt able to finish (which was a joke), because it had built up into such a big mountain of problems haunting me. After some sessions he suggested to take the lowest dose of an anti-depressant called Citalopram to see if this helps. And at first i felt reborn into the person i had always wanted to be, but man i had the full list of side effects. what bothered me most, was that i got impotent almost instantly, and it took some time to recover. I stopped taking the meds after 2 months, and the psychologist didn’t have a clue what he was prescribing. He also stopped answering the phone (and i wasn’t pushy or so, he called 2 months later so i guess had some issues himself). Anyways, after reading a lot about Citalopram‘s side effect, it is clear to say that a high percentage of users will have a decreased sexual stimulus to varying degrees. This f**ked up my relationship, because my partner didn’t understand that i love her but just can’t get a boner. It helped in all other areas of my life, i became the person i wanted to be. I called it buddhist wisdom in pill format, because after years of trouble falling asleep, i just did without the need to kill my unwanted thoughts. It killed my empathy though, and this in combination with my sexdrive going to 0 was inflicting too much damage. So i stopped. I took it about 2 months, and it felt like a door had opened in my head. I finished university. I went straight for what i wanted and cleared up some mess in my head. It really helped me, and maybe it will help you too. Just not my thing, as i saw something good in my personality and didn’t want to loose it. So i learned to love myself, but yeah, i still have anxiety issues. Ps: there is also a newer brand of this drug called Escitalopram. I seems to have less strong side effects. Pps: ask a doctor for side effects, to not run into unwanted issues. If you are not suicidal, then i would recommend trying this path if all other attempts have failed. Because the solution of your problem might be just waiting for you. If you are suicidal though, avoid Citalopram. Ppps: this drug is intended to be accompanied by a behavior therapy. It will not change your life, you will have to do this yourself. But it can really help you with your therapy if you feel to weak and keep bouncing back. Pppps: Citalopram is a level medication, meaning you will have to take it every day for an extended period of time for it to take effect. Good luck everyone!
  • Alin
    Pray to God. That helps. No matter what beliefs you have, no matter how much you hate yourself, God loves you and He is willing more than anyone to help you. And He will. Just ask Him. Furthermore, you have a part that you have to do in order to overcome. Remove anything that eventually leads you to masturbation. Whether it’s music, movies, games, pornography, bad companies etc. Say ‘NO’ to this things. On the other side, try doing good things like using your time to do something useful, helping someone in need, care for others. This way the temptation of masturbation will have no means to get you if you are busy. You will experience something that you never had. You will notice that you overcame. And the satisfaction then, will be a lot more great than the pleasures of sensuality. You will be blessed. Why? Because this is how God works. May He help you!1 Corinthians 10:13 “No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.”
  • Anonymous
    I have been suffering from this issue from a very young age. I have tried to control myself a lot but I guess the desire always overcome my will power. It makes me feel sleepy whole day and guilty through out. I have not been able to control this more than 3 days in a row from last 18 years and I guess it is a lot of time. If I hold it longer my brain plays games with me which has been trained to behave like this but still I have not kneel down in front of my desire. I will try to fight this and change my thoughts, perception. I will suggest the same to you. Keep your spirit and will power high. Quitting this Habit can take time but will definitely go.
  • Mark P
    Am this kind that whenever the urge comes on me, all that I feel inside of me is “Do this and satisfy yourself it’s nothing bad” but immediately after the act, I feel so so ashamed of myself.
  • Bill
    I am addicted to masturbation and am attempting to not do it for a whole month does anyone have any tips?
  • Victor
    the fact that you are here means you’re a step away from walking out of this mess. We have to first believe God can help us, the abstain from anything that’s capable of triggering this bad habit. God help us all.
  • Monu
    Hi all, I am going to be 30 next month. And I am suffering this from my childhood. It may sound strange . But true. Exaculation happened at maturity. But fanciful ideas where there from childhood. Now condition is very pathetic. Physical and mental health is severely damaged. Vision is detoriating. In short, life beacame hell. Please help.
  • Aiden
    Hi I’m Aiden and I gave been doing that since I was 10 I am 14 now and have been doing it all most everyday since and I am very ashame and wanted to see if anyone had any advice.
  • Pawan
    I do it ‘ when I 12yr old my friend say me for this, and I try this is feel good in starting but after the scene i loose my overall energy and my full day is spend in Sandness or dull situation Now I am 21 but I can’t stop myself I have premium porn accounts more than 12 websitesю when I try to stop this it’s possible for me only 3 or 4 days my iq goes to very low in exam I can’t remember things properly i always think stories of porn it very difficult for me to leave this addiction“please help me” Send me tips that’s actually work
  • Eric
    Hmm is not easy to I have started masturbation at age 14 now am 21 yet still I find difficult to get out of it At times I try my best to control my self for 2-3months then all of a sudden am into it again please I need help
  • D
    Wow. I didn’t know so many people have the same story. Thanks to everyone for sharing. I remember being about 3 when I first got in trouble for this habit. Now I’m 31 so that makes about 28 years..or more. It makes me sad and like a failure. I’m scared of what I’ve probably done to myself. I too have felt the despondence over and over and over again…I’m remorseful and wanting a change. That’s how I came across this page. Thanks for your comments, prayers, and opportunity to share. I’m hopeful that I’ve taken the first step to recovery here
  • TfamumiR
    Been 3 years masturbating, I started it when I was around 13-years old out of curiosity. I always trying to stop, but it always failed.
  • Greg
    Is it weird that I’m only 15 and looking to stop? Also, the information helped a lot, especially the comment section, thanks.
  • Godiscontrol
    Physical Effects of Masturbating heavily.. 1. Low back pain 2. Shrinkage of genitals 3. bad eye sight 4. Baldness 5. Dull face 6. rough skin 7. Premature ejaculations 8. Weakness 9. Irregular heartbeats leading to heart attack 10. Brain fog and forgetfulness and low intelligence.Spiritual Effect of Masturbating 1. Sex with demons 2. Spiritual marriage 3. Bad luck 4. Lost of favor 5. Giving birth to more demons 6.Look like a demon to opposite sexCauses of Masturbating 1. Watching sexy music videos 2. Lusting after beautiful girls 3. Watching Pornography 4. Staying indoors 5. Playing video games aloneHow to stop Masturbation 1. Prayer is the key 2. Exercising your body 3. set targets 4. Don’t Sleep naked 5. Avoid looking at lady’s but and breast. 6. Avoid instagram 7. Take up a hobby 8. Listen to religious songs all day 9. Practise yoga 10. Practise microscopic orbitNB 1. Take daily vitamin supplement 2. Eat Moringa leavesThus can help u recover your health after heavily Masturbating for years..Results of Of Ending Masturbation 1. Smooth skin 2. Active and positive minded 3. Attractive to opposite sex 4. black and thick hair 5. Creative mind 6. Happy face 7. clear conscience 8. Increase in height and bone densitySO HELP US GOD
    • Breven Mulandeli
      I Like that one very strong words for encouragement. My prayer is that GOD help all.
  • Omumani a.benson
    mastarbation has seriously ruined my marriage life.I started at my youthful stage am now above 40 need your help to stop this act .
  • travor christopher
    hello am a 17 years old boy and am kindly seeking for help over the masturbation act please any one with help can pass it to me.thank you
  • Sam
    I have really liked the information and your website and I feel learned. I am greatly engrossed in masturbation and want to stop as soon as possible and I seriously need your guidance and counseling. I will be grateful to hear from you. Thank you.
  • Gerald
    Its a process to follow. But all is it can be overcome.just make a No decision and stand by it.
  • Breven
    Having a positive mindset at all times really helps but above all only GOD can help.
  • Pouya
    Masturbation is the worst thing I’ve ever done. I just know it’s not OK. it’s not good not healthy it’s not the thing that most of the sites are saying is. Set yourselves free as soon as possible.
  • guy_who_try_to_be_free
    Guys this might be a little too long.Hi, i’m 22(i’m a male) i masturbated when i was in early ages.I still do but all these years i tried to masturbate at least 2 times. I’ve been doing it for 10 years, but recently i fell in love with a girl who was 8 years older than me, and it exacerbated.I told her how i felt for her, but i’m not in a situation to get married, and i don’t want to have sex before marriage. Hopefully,i’m not addicted to porn, but still there is that excitement in me to watch.I found out that it’s up to you to choose and then God help you, one step at the time. some choices are for us to be made. . Guys i’m trying to get free of it, and i have almost done it, but again those god damn relapses.Please try to stop masturbating it causes to prostate infection(i have it now) and i’m trying to get rid of masturbating, because it’s affected my health.Just try to eschew watching or doing anything that might cause temptation, yet you should make that choice. it worked for me so i’m trying so you try to make a change too. Try to be happy,be persistent,have courage,enjoy your life without masturbation.
  • ec suvie
    I thought I was alone, but I guessed wrong, and that gives me strength, and I’ve decided (with tears in my eyes) that This is the last time for me to be in vain and crash with myself for the rest of my life, because I’m finally leaving everything about this act behind on this website with these texts I’m typing.. I’m finally fade up, I started it by myself someday, and I don’t see the reason why I can’t stop it completely by myself this time,. We all can do the same. I’M OUT!!
  • Godwin
    When ever i think of porn,i well start the felling to masturbating in me.The worst part is dat it has makes me to hate girls,i can’t fell more for ladies.Help me please
  • Sani
    Hey I am 37yo now and I started at the age of 12 and then never stoped even though I was married for 7years and during that time I was mastrubating as well although significantly less. I do regular exercise, stoped watching porn but couldn’t get any better. I definitely need some help
  • Samuel
    Thanks for your encouragement
  • Kenny Smith
    Thank u
  • Mark kalawy
    My major problem is that l masturbate excessively and after that l regret a lot and l also found many negative impact of masturbation .Though l always have pleasure to perform sex.
  • Popping Emmanuel
    I aching to stop porn and masturbation addiction. I don’t grow up and marry still caught up in its web. I don’t my future wife to feel emotionally betrayed.
  • Rodney
    This is what I needed all along Thank you so much.
  • Butcher
    It will be a hard journey but I believe by God’s grace I will overcome
  • Lefa
    so helpful thanks
  • Rentchii quan
    Thanks
  • Cal
    Guys I have the same problem and I really want to stop. Please help Im only 13 and I started a few months ago how do I quit early berore its too late?
  • Mazeer
    I am 55 years old.i have started musterbation at the age of 16.many times I have decided to give up musterbation.but unfortunately I can not control the musterbation.now at this age at the peak time is to much long it feel good, but it is very bad for health.after musterbation one hour I feel asleep I want to give up my addiction.
  • Progress
    I feel so stupid whenever I do this.i feel like God hates me so much.i really need help to completely stop this habit.
    • tomjones
      Why do you feel God hates you?
  • Unknown
    I’ve been struggling with this problem myself. I come across something or think of someone and then I get turned on, and masturbate. I hate myself deeply afterwards, and I feel like this is the reason no one hangs around me. I’m 15, and it’s been going on for 5 years. I really want help, or encouragement.
  • P Devadas
    My son who is 21 is addicted to it. How this can be controlled or stopped. He is going weak may be due to this. Need help
    • Oj oj
      Never allow him to be lonely
  • Shree
    Daily masturbation for so many years causes so many side effects. Let me share what I have experienced. 1. The power of memory will decrease, you will start forgetting things. 2. Hair loss. 3. Loss of concentration. Once you are addicted to masturbation you can’t concentrate on anything. 4. The main thing is your penis will become very small and it causes depression. 5. Once you are an addict, you will start looking every girl in sexual feeling. 6. Maybe you will become thin and you don’t see any changes in your body. Has anyone experienced these?
    • Kevin Wilson
      I have definitely experienced penis shrinkage. Mine is shriveled to where it is tiny. Girls make fun of me now cause it’s so small. Is there any way to reverse penis shrinkage?
  • blank
    im 16 and have had this problem since 13 and maybe its not as severe as some of you other people but i want it to end and can see the bad side of it. i hate it so much and i feel so bad afterwards and its to the point where i dont do it because i reallyhave the urge but really cause im just bored and im addicted. but reading this and all thecomments is inspiring and these lke 10+ year additions scare me and i really dont want that so this is me officially stopping and itll be hard but i have god and good friends and family.
  • Lal
    Does masturbation make us weak physically? Does it cause headache?
  • Pretty
    Am a female I masturbate a lot I really hate myself after doing it I really need help
  • Gene McCoy
    I have been addicted to masturbation since I learned how to do it almost 30 years ago at the stages of puberty. Now, my back is not even aligned correctly. I want to do my best to see this as a blessing from God though. I have wanted to get away from doing it for a LONG time. However, I have not made getting away from it serious enough. I have to go to a doctor before even going back to work at a retail store since that is physically demanding.Outside of my job I live in total isolation not doing much of anything with my life. That’s why I think that this is a blessing. I need to have a higher level of self-esteem and go out into the world to discover more of what life is all about. Get out of my own world that I live in. Get to know the Lord and others better.Just don’t think much of myself. So, I wonder how others think of me. Need to let the Lord take control, and not Satan.Went to a private Christian college and asked a teacher there if masturbation is a sin. He wasn’t really sure. Now, I’m sure God forgives you of it if you don’t become addicted to it. But, I spend so much more time doing it than spending time with God and others outside of work that I know it’s sinful. It’s “worshipping a false idol”. I guess you can say any addiction is like that.Need to be more determined, as a single man, to conquer my fears in order to go out and find other things to be doing when off from work.Thank you for reminding me to keep a record of the amount of time you spend keeping away from it, and maybe rewarding yourself for doing that. I have, at times, considered doing just that.
  • Anonymous
    Really need help plz I’ve tried to stop for so many times but its like the urge to masturbate keeps coming back ,I’ve been doing it since 2013
  • nieko
    ive been trying to quit for 6 months now, i just had my longest 8 day streak but i had like 5 temptations in a row and next thing i knew i was kneeling on the ground getting mad at myself. i dont know what else to do ive limited so much temptation already and i know i should just be able to get through it. i realized ive had a lot of free time so i tried filling time up and it helped some but now i get tempted while doing homework and i cant take it.
  • James
    I am grateful for this information. I have been struggling with masturbation for years and I am sick of disappointing the Lord. I pray that the Lord will give me strength to move in a different direction.
  • Kevin Wilson
    I’ve masturbated very regularly for about 30 years now. I have stretched the foreskin on my penis so much it stays severely shriveled. Is there any way to restore my penis to it’s normal size. It stays shriveled and very small. I really need some help.
  • innocent
    helo t has been now 8 years wen am musturbating and I have lost body weight,mental disturbances, energy,back pain,and am tired of it .wat shud I do I need help.thanks
    • tomjones
      Why do you associate masturbation with ost body weight, mental disturbances, energy, back pain?
  • Emmanuel
    My own case is even wost bcuz it’s making me to hate women at the age of 41 I can’t get married now it’s cause me small penis & weakness of the body, bt please can this course not been successful in life?
  • Girl
    I need your help,I’m 40 but even though I feel horrible but I can’t stop,I stop it for a while it comes up again and I noticed that the sexual urge is very intense when I’m about to mensurate
    • Dee
      All I can say is try exercising a few times a week in some fashion. When you are menstruating be sure to stay extra active!!
  • Joseph
    I’ve tried to stop it by all means ,but it seems impossible, sometimes it’s not even pornography that starts it, when I’m on facebook and i see a female seductive pictures or videos that’s were it starts even YouTube. Sometimes i just feel like stopping to enter those sites for a while but after I will enter it again seeing those seductive things in some sites and the urge comes again. I hate myself when this happens, it prevents me from doing important thing i ought to do, i feel like I’m disappointing God. And God is not happy with me. Please i really need help…
  • Emmanuel
    Pls can having a girlfriend stop this behaviour?
  • Dee
    I can’t believe there are so many others like myself! I’m married with kids. As far back as I can remember, maybe 30 years I have always masterbated as a fall back when sad, depressed, lonely, excited, sexy, every emotion makes me think of doing it!! I think of hot sexy woman all day! I am so unhappy with my wife and how she has let herself go, that I feel always justified it to myself as I deserve to be gratified to! I am so screwed up! I just hope my kids don’t end up like me!! I always push friends away and was very popular at one time. I just feel like being alone most times! HELP!!
    • tomjones
      Are you and your wife sexually active? Have you let yourself go? Why do you want to be alone
  • Nwabueze
    Truly am trying to overcome this challenge but it’s not been easy what do I really need to do because I seriously want it to thanks
    • tomjones
      What brings about your urged and how long does it takes you to act upon it?
    • tomjones
      What initiates you to masturbate? What are your triggers? Where are you when you feel like masturbating? What do you do when the urge first hits you? How long after sensing the impulse, do you masturbate? How often have you refused to give in, and when you refused to give in, what stopped you?
  • I need your help
    I’m 24yrs old, male… I’m addicted to masturbation for 11 years now… I don’t do drugs, smoking or drink alcohol… It’s just, i can’t control my urge to jerk off.. it doesn’t have to be porn, it could as silly as a pic with little cleavage and I’m on.. the urge exponentially increases when I’m alone, sad or failed at something… I was a good student, but now I have lost my focus, self confidence and i have developed an attitude of procrastination… I hv a gf too, but the masturbation habit just doesn’t stop… I want to quit it… And have my life back… I’m done being obligated to do it everyday…
    • tomjones
      What pleasure do you prefer, masturbating or intercourse with your girlfriend?
  • Kenny
    Am 22yrs ,have been masturbating and am tired of it ,I need to stop this hell and live a good with my girlfriend ,please help me .
  • Zackie
    Am an addict for about 2yrs av tried everything to stop it but it doesn’t work..am now afraid about my spiritual life coz am now turning to hate everything and everyone..please help me