Practical Tips on How to Overcome Masturbation Addiction

Do you feel like you masturbate too much? Do you want to know how to stop masturbation? Over 50% of men look at porn regularly and this almost inevitably leads to masturbation. Over 60% of men and 40% of women reported having masturbated in the past month. Porn addiction and masturbation go hand in hand and they have become a serious issue that millions of people all around the world across all ages and both sexes suffer from. A lot of people are addicted to masturbation and they are constantly wondering how they can stop this habit as they often hate themselves after the deed is done.

The urge to masturbate is a natural one especially in adolescence as it signifies interest in sex before embarking on adult sexual relationships. Masturbation is a shortcut to get the natural gratification that comes with reproduction. But when it becomes an obsession or a reason for constant self-loathing, then perhaps it is time to cut down on this self-service. There are so many negative effects of masturbation and amongst them are:

  • Long-term depression.
  • Difficulty in real life sex.
  • Self-loathing.
  • Tiredness and Fatigue.

How to stop a masturbation addiction?

You can stop a masturbation addiction in a few ways:

  • Stop punishing yourself and don’t be despondent
  • Remove triggers that tempt you to masturbate
  • Find other outlets for your time and energy
  • Be persistent and patient
  • Seek professional help
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Can you get professional help for masturbation addiction?

Yes, there are professional counseling programs for masturbation addiction. The most effective counseling programs for overcoming masturbation addiction are the ones that incorporate holistic, emotional, and mental approaches.

Perhaps the most common issue with masturbation addiction, especially in married couples, is how it affects your relationship with your partner. They soon start to feel neglected, inadequate and frustrated. The following addresses how to stop masturbation and it does not focus on issues such as why people want to stop masturbating or whether or not it is healthy. There are so many ways to confront the masturbation problem but they are all very likely to fall under one of these categories.

  1. Stop punishing yourself: Remember that masturbation is actually a natural urge and as human beings, we are always having these sexual urges and neither of these things makes you less of a person or any less worthy compared to anyone. Don’t allow yourself enter into despondency as this is mostly a waste of time; time that could have been spent relinquishing yourself of the addiction. So take it a step at a time and realize that there is actually help and you’re not helpless against the situation.
  1. Remove the things that bring you temptation to masturbate: Top of the list of things that brings temptation to masturbate is pornography so you have to rid yourself and your immediate environment of any and all pornographic content. Also, you should control your access to this content. If you are observant enough to know the specific times and instances you mostly get the urge to masturbate, try to get busy with other things at those times. Some people recommend exercising as this gives you a release of its own and leaves you exhausted to do much else. If you masturbate frequently as a result of your loneliness, find ways to limit your solitude. Do things you usually do alone in the company of others and in public places. Don’t lock yourself up indoors all day.
  1. Find another outlet for your time and energy: Fill your life with engaging activities. The excitement of doing something different and meeting set goals and objectives can help replace the urge to masturbate and you’ll have a lot more distractions that can keep your mind off it. The process of turning your sexual urges into creative output is something that monks and sages have mastered and it is called sublimation. This is something you can utilize on a scale that you are capable of. There are a lot of things that you can invest your time and energy to such as writing, learning to play an instrument, drawing etc. This takes discipline and persistence and no one ever said it was going to be easy. Research has also shown that the way you live can either increase or decrease your self-control when it comes to dealing with addictions.
  1. Be persistent and patient: Stopping masturbation is not something that can be done instantly. It is a process that requires commitment and you might fall to temptation and relapse on occasion. Don’t beat yourself up when this happens. The real struggle is in persevering so commit now that you won’t let mistakes stand in your way. You can also set up a reward system to reward yourself for good behavior and achievement in terms of how long you go without masturbating. When you keep a record of how long you’ve gone without masturbating, the longer the record stays the harder it is for you to engage in activity that will ruin that record. Doing this introduces a new motivation which can help you over the finish line. Your desire to keep your record and your pride in how long you’ve abstained will eventually overwhelm your desire to masturbate and at this point, your battle over addiction is almost won.
  1. When all else fails, seek professional help: Help can be found in community and counseling. The community can take the form of support groups, online forums, and accountability partners.

A quote from the book, Will Power by Kelly McGonigal says:

Go public with your willpower challenges, if you believe others are rooting for your success and keeping an eye on your behavior, you’ll be more motivated to do the right thingKelly McGonigal

There are plenty of benefits in being part of a community. With community, you realize that you are not alone and you can draw strength from others that are either facing the same issues as you or are actively trying to help you overcome your addiction. This can be very empowering.

There are a lot of research into curbing masturbation addiction and some new studies are proving to be promising. Counseling is another great way to overcome the addiction. There are different approaches to counseling but the most effective ones are those which incorporate a holistic approach to helping you, not only mentally and emotionally, but also incorporate the physical, spiritual and social aspects that affect your willpower. Getting help from others can be especially difficult with masturbation addiction as there is a lot of shame that comes with it but you have to overcome that shame if you are serious about getting help. There are so many people with the same problem and seeking help is a brave step that you should be proud of. Although some people are comfortable enough to ask for help from their spiritual leaders, this is generally not common because sometimes there is a level of judgment that might hinder the recovery process. Professional help is generally preferable as these counselors don’t judge and have extensive experience in dealing with people who are suffering from the same problem.

Is it hard to stop a masturbation addiction?

Yes, it can be hard to stop a masturbation addiction. Quitting masturbation is a process that requires commitment and is prone to relapse. Keeping a record and rewarding yourself for your good behavior can also be a means of motivation for you overcome your addiction.

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Practical Tips on How to Overcome Masturbation Addiction

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  • I’ve been into this from my early stage i need help when never things get bad i feel like sexing anything

    • Sorry bro. I know exactly how you feel

    • It has cost me so much money aswell.. if gambling can be blocked due to addiction. I think pay for campsites should be blocked for people addicted to them. I would hate to think how many thousands of my hard earned pounds I have wasted!

  • it is actually a very bad thing I’ll say, to masturbate regularly. it doesn’t feel good after the act and I want to stop it by all means

  • Am woman been experiencing the same i really need help because i cnt even date …..

    • I have a severe masturbation addiction since 13 I’m 24 now and it’s been a daily thing at times I was going 7-8 times a day on the lonely nights was using it as a aid to fall asleep and to feel good i would stop but get bad urges, longest I’ve been without masturbating a month, and reading this had is giving me the strength to ask for help

      • funny, i am in the same situation. i was introduced into sex an at early age, before i was even aware of it by an older family relative. after getting to 13 yrs, i started masturbating too much, jst even to fall asleep. now am 24 yrs. i have tried to use self made programs to abstain, but i keep coming back to it. i no longer hate myself, but it is affecting my physical sexual life. it gets too much for me to handle at times.

        • I am 12 and just started masterbating and can’t stop. I feel like poop and i might have depression. I don’t know though. I always feel sad. I can’t get help from my family because it’ll be embarrassing and my dad has spent enough money on my sister because she had an eating disorder.

          • Hey Mat, this is a tough thing to have to face. My heart goes out to you, aa I started young as well. BiI would encourage you to talj to someone who will listen and who can try to get you some professional help. Depression can worsen if you are dependent on masturbation. Its a cycle. If you are uncomfortable with asking for help directly relating to masturbation, you maybe could ask your parents about getting help for depression from a therapist for depression. Maybe you could get talk-guidance from a professional this way.

          • i am 17 and started this when i was 12 due to an elder brother who taught me. i want you to engage ur life by having love and coming in a relationship

        • masturbation really is a fierce an irresistible force, I started masturbating when 13,am now 20 but still struggling to stop it,my IQ,time,efforts,all I ever loved seemingly declined due to the same willing to stop and I need friends well wishers who can help me conquer this act,and am willing also to help those addicted find their way out once am fully out of it

        • Am Kofi I started masturbation when I was 14 and now I’m 17 I want to stopped it but force.Help me Nothing is impossible

          • When the urge to masturbate comes it is almost impossible to stop. But i have a solution u can try it, one thing about masturbation urge is that d temptation does not last for more than 10mins ,when u are tempted breathe slowly 7 times and say slowly with full concentration ” I am completely free of this habit, harmony and peace of mind reign supreme ” .
            The temptation to masturbate comes from the mind and once the mind is distracted fully with other activities thay require full concentration it tends to go towards it and brings what you say to pass. It works.
            And finally a hidden and true fact about you is that YOU ARE MORE POWERFUL THAN YOU THINK, WHATEVER YOU SAY WITH FULL CONCENTRATION YOUR MIND WILL BRING IT TO PASS, i use to masturbate but i have stopped because of these words.

      • I’m sorry man the same thing with me to. Btw do u have hair loss?

        • A bit, but we must stop this since it causes impotence (meaning you have to do it longer to get the white stuff out, can take up to even 20 mins). The internet says its a myth, but they lie 2 make u feel good.

          • It absolutely leads to impotence, and 20 minutes is a great understatement. It can take over two hours, especially if you’ve been addicted for a long time and it isn’t the first time on that day.

        • just keep that thing in our pants don’t take it out until you need to that dam
          simple your hand will thank you an read the bible or read a book go for a walk

      • Don’t loose hope am also l like u
        Lets pray to God

    • Try to have company when ever you feel like doing it..also try having real sex,it may help you realize that having sex is better than masturbation

    • I’m a woman too struggling with this, honestly until recently i thought it was normal to masturbate basically every day of the week

    • Feel bad about it. Am going through the same challenge. Can’t even maintain a relationship. I really want to quite. Maybe finding a friend with similar challenges and having open discussions or sharing these challenges and achievements would help. Coz it ain’t easy to talk about this stuff with anyone even family.

  • I feel so misplaced… I’m a female who has been sort of afraid of sexual interaction my whole life. Recently, I have become addicted to masturbating. I need help, I hate myself.

    • Don’t hate yourself just fight it with a smile I’m an addict too, and I think I’m replying this late but hope you are now free

    • I’m also suffering from it.
      We can avoid it merrieg.
      So will you Merry me

    • I Think You have to adopt some natural recipes that will control harmones in your body.
      You should take small dosage of ginger with honey regularly.
      It has helped me .
      I am sure it will help you.

    • oh I hate myself too, I mean am only 24 years old and I became an addict to porn for a year now. I really hate myself and I even hate looking at the mirror…….I need to stop.i always thought the reason for my addiction was never having a girlfriend or never been with someone before, but no that’s not the reason I have no excuse

  • Masturbation is a bad habit

  • My addiction is so sever that is borders on binge masturbation, where in I lose hours, sometimes nearly an entire day to masturbation. My self confidence has always been at an all time low and sometimes I feel like I masturbate because I feel I’ll never be good enough for anyone else long term. Sometimes when porn isn’t enough I sext with women I pick up on dating apps. This is a problem and has been from day one. It’s ruining my relationships because regular sex stops being enough and I start to seek sexual stimulation elsewhere. I recently started dating an ex that I’ve been deeply in love with for so long and I don’t want to screw this up again. I want to get better so I can be happy in my own skin, and so that I can build a life with this woman that I love so dearly. I need help. Please.

  • I have been struggling with this for a long time every time I do it I feel good but after I hate myself so much I make myself sick I feel like no one will love me if I don’t stop I want to but I keep going back

    • Hey L you can do it I am also in the same situation and what I know is that by believing that nothing is impossible then everything is possible.

  • I have been struggling with this bad habit, I’ve gotten to a horrible stage till I lost days not sleeping just to watch porn and masturbate, but trying to seek help has gotten me down from days to hardly once for the week. It is Hard but I pray and talk to a particular friend that has told me to go to a set number of days and each week increase the number of days by two and treat yourself when I get to my goal. I’m still struggling at times.
    The feeling after doing it makes it so much the worse

  • I know you can do it. It’s never too late.

    • i have been trying to quit masturbation in the entire part of my life ,iam 19 years what should i do

      • bro leave it no w. its not too late .. otherwise u will suffer … and it will be too late .. please make a commitment to urself and it will not be so difficult ..

  • I need help masturbation is ruining my life

  • pray to God to give you the power to overcome it

    • Thanks. But i find it hard to pray after this stuff

      • And you feel like God will not forgive you for this

        • You realize the whole reason why we were created, is for God to exercise one of his Attributes on us. Which is being the “the most Merciful”. Just a Heads up, this is from an islamic point of view and what has been said in the islamic holy text, in case you’re wondering. Say, “O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah . Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful.”( Chapter 39 Verse 53). Never ever lose hope in god that in its the self is the sin.

    • that is the only way

  • For me it’s not just about masturbation… I am a married guy.. but I am hungry for the sexual attention from girls. I am a good looking guy, I guess, as I get a plenty of attention.. but it makes me hungry for more. For me sex/masturbation is secondary, I guess I love the feeling for being wanted/desired. Even via social media, I am connected with girls abroad and get my sexual stimulation via cam/pics/videos. I lie, cheat, spend hours and money to get this fix. It is affecting my life and work. I am always afraid and ashamed of it. But Can’t help it. Please help.

  • I also need help. Been addicted to this habit almost 10 years now. I have tried to stop severally but i keep going back. I feel like it has taken away my belief in self and has also ruined my relationships.
    I need help now.

  • i did masturbation whrn i went to bed for sleep.i stop for 3 days,in the past i had decided to stop it for many times but i could not do it.God please help just this once.i can stop it once and for all

    • my dear friend . I would suggest to go to near by ISKCON temple (HARE KRISHNA) on daily basis atleast for a month and take part in Kirtans(glorification of GOD) . you will see the magic. Eventually after a month or so u can reveal to some devotees whom u feel confidential. Bcoz to give up these lower things we need higher things just like a person eating dry breads will prefer nice sweet items. dont be hopelesss. I have seen many of my friends getting rid of it , i feel very happy to share this with all.

  • Hello there,thanks for your advice. I do really need help overcoming this issue and I will love more contributions. Thanks

  • I usually do it once a week. I try to keep myself from doing it but I am always defeated by the power of addiction.

  • Jezz I have Ben wishing, trying, and doing everything possible to quit this act but it just won’t get off my cerebellum. I need a professional help so badly. My health conditions is so bad now because of this act. Help! Help! Desperately in need of help and a way out.

  • Addiction can be stopped by Getting a Good Partner to whom we can Say our Reason and This Addiction . There is a possiblity that together can stop this Forever .

  • Messagei’ve been battling with this stubborn demon of masturbation for years now may Almighty God save us all, cos i’ve relapsed several times now

  • i have also been dealing with this for years now and I’ve only just clocked 18. I wanna try to stop before I cross over to the new year. I ‘ve not masturbates in two days now and it’s been really hard. I just hope I’ll be able to see it through this time

  • This is not your problem is the devil deceive you to maturbate.

  • I have been where all of you guys are, i was addicted, i did it almost every day, multiple times a day, but i got into this program called reformers unanimous (RU) it has really helped me. Now this program is for people with addictions mainly drug and alcohol addictions, but this is also an addiction, God got me out of this addiction and i know He can get you out too, its a terrible addiction and i failed quiting it so many times, but God forgives and forgets, i pray someone will read this and try to get into an ru progam, the truth can set you free!!

  • It’s really a strong addiction,i ve been into this for more than 10years and the feelings are always the same afterwards,its one of the strongest addictions known to man,i ve made resolve several times to stop but I ve never gone more than 3weeks or even less without it,recently I had a weak erection while I was playing on the bed with a woman I loved though a virgin but it really scared her and made her have doubts about settling down with me,i really need help and I will go to any extent to get it,i ve gone 5days now since I fapped last,i pray it continues as I need to break this addiction and be fully restored and rebooted before marriage.

  • I have been married for 5 years now and its been 5 months since I had masterbated. Yesterday I relapsed and I did not look at anything sexual or was I thinking of anything pornographic. My wife asked me if I would tell her the truth about the issue and I did and now she is very hurt and upset. She thinks I thought of someone else, But I told her the truth that I had not thought of anything or anyone. She does not know if she wants to stay in this relationship because of this. At one time I had a problem with pornography and I have not had that issue for 2.5 years now and she thinks I am up to that again.

  • I’m doing it 2-3 times a day now! I’m surprised I haven’t already gone blind, since I’ve been addicted since junior high. I need help now!

  • I feel disgust of my self at this very moment 🙁 I have been doing this for 20 years I need help I don’t want this in my life anymore

  • Wow! Didn’t know masturbation addiction was this hell of a deal until I checked this site, especially the comment section. To be fair, I’ve been masturbating since secondary school days up till about a week ago. Between those times, I had tried several times to stop but I just find myself deep in it without feeling remorseful. I’m in a relationship where we have sex maybe twice or thrice a year so I just thought it was one way to complement my sex life and to not make me appear to my girlfriend like a sex slave as well. Just recently, I realized that masturbating was cheating and I wouldn’t tolerate it from my girlfriend after she pranked me with it. Well, I didn’t fight masturbation by fighting masturbation directly. I simply deleted all the porn videos on my phone, got rid of all provocative pictures, ignore sex news and gists online (for this, I gave up Facebook entirely), I also stopped watching secular music videos and even stopped listening to secular songs amongst other things I thought fuel the urge to masturbate. Oh! Lemme not forget, I usually masturbated at night right before I sleep so whenever I want to sleep, I keep my phone sooooooo far away coupled with the zeal that “I want to be a better person”. With all these, I’ve been fighting masturbation so well and easily. I’ve never gone this far. In fact, it has been flawless and looked like a bite of pizza until tonight. I just hope I don’t go back to it.

  • By God’s grace with all these comment, i know i can stop masturbation because i usually hate myself same time feeling remorse after the demonic act “masturbation. I am physically challenge i.e having my left leg bad. so i always feel so shy to approach woman of my choice and this make’s me indulge in masturbation. I pray for God deliverance by giving me a woman that will love me for whom i am. I will start self discipline over this from now on.

  • After watching a porn movie on the 1st of January 2008, I couldn’t help it but masturbate. That is how my long disgraceful journey started. It’s 10 years now and I’ve been trying to quit but every time I find myself back to it again. Now I can do it more than 10 times a day and I hate myself so much. After all these wasted 10 years, My 2019 resolution is to get rid of this addiction. I regret

  • I have been in this act for over eleven to twelve years. This addiction is really ruling my life. I have tried my best to over it but I can’t pls I need destroying me gradually…

  • Please help me. I am addicted to narcotics, smoking pot, pornography and I masturbate constantly. I can’t hold down a job. I have smoked marijuana since I was 14 and Im 65 now. Please help me.

    • Andy, at 65 and having been addicted for a very long time, you obviously have coped in some ways…i get that employment issues seem to have been a much bigger problem…but you probably should just relax and enjoy the rest of your life doing what you are doing even though it has some negative consequences…focus more on the positive and practice harm-reduction on the negatives…it just depends on you…but of course, get professional help if you can afford it.

  • My daughter is 31, has had issues with drug addiction and mental illness since she was 12. She masterbates while watching tv, puts a blanket over her and goes to town on herself when everybody is right here. I finally told her tonight she needs to stop doing that in front of people that it’s not bad to do, but not acceptable in front of people. Now after reading these comments and looking at this site I am convinced she’s got masturbation addiction . I told her she needs to talk to her psychiatrist about it at her next visit because it’s definitely not normal. When I see her doing that again, should I mention it and tell her to stop ?

    • She needs good friend….who always interact with her…..she masturbating because of her surroundings situation lift her mentality…!
      But if she get good friend who always interact with her positively that can help her to think wide ….!

  • I’m so happy i know i’m not alone in this. I’m addicted too, and i have never told anyone. I’m so ashamed because of it. Guys, i feel your pain. I tried to fight my demons but they always win, no matter how hard i try. But, i found out that loneliness is the worst thing if you are addicted to masturbation. If anyone want to talk about it, I’m here.

    • Been struggling with masturbation since I was like 13, I’ve tried to quit many times too but I just relapse. I thought I was alone till I found this site while looking for a way out of my addiction

    • Hi Vanessa? We r all addicted n we know it. We started it and have the power to stop it. yes we can.

    • you might not believe.. i have tried to fight it .. i know what i am not suppose to do … but still i land up doing it 3 times a day i am a trader and have to shit 10 hrs everyday in front of computer to wait for right time to trade .. so i land up watching porn i hate it but what to do no one in my office .. i am all alone for 10 hrs everyday.. just need someone to talk … please help me with counseling

    • Hi vanesa, finally someone to talk with. Did you already trying to overcome it? I always try but i mostly failed. The guilt and self disgust is emense and i hate my self even more knowing i will start over and over again.

    • i am addicted as well can we talk about it.i dont have girl friend yet becoz of this habbit..

    • This evil act has been part of my life 4 over 8yrs upto now….though em trying hard to abstain, i keep on falling back. whenever em abt to masturbate or after masturbating i feel bad…. iam now 24yrs old, i have no girlfrnd and i think ts because of masturbation…I feel ashamed,em shy and dnt quickly associate with people because of this evil act..i reallly need someone to talk to, who is also have same experience….thnkz

    • I fall a victim in this too, loneliness triggered thissince my junior high school,, contact me if possible

    • Hi Vanesa, I quite agree with you regards loneliness playing a part with this addiction, I’m married and not had sex with my wife for many years, masturbation keeps me sain to a degree.
      Regards Jon

    • Would want to talk,really need someone to talk to privately,share issues wit.

    • I can help you BecUse I stop mine last year after 15 years

    • Hey! I can relate. As of today I am going to take a resolute resolve to stop. Enough!! We can do it by helping ourselves through encouragement and regular check up. Together we can fight this demon

    • Hi Vanesa ..My name is Dennis …I’m 65 years old …and addicted to masturbation. I do it everyday ..and if I lived alone , I would do it all day. I enjoy watching porn …esp. transgender porn. I get so excited about a beautiful woman with a penis …I’m not gay …but, for some reason I really like the thought of being with someone like that. I think it has alot to do with being sexually molested when I was a child. My neighbor used to force me to give him oral sex. Thanks for letting me reach out to you about this …I’m embarrassed to even think about discussing this issue with anyone else. Thanks Dennis

    • Hi Vanessa. I am going through a hard time with masturbation addiction and needs help. Let’s talk, please contact me on Inst @olajide_esq. Anyone can get in touch. I need help let’s talk about it

  • I have been wanking since I was about 13-14,and I’m still doing it 37 years later.If I could quit forever it would be great.Like all addictions it is hard to give up,i think I need too seek some kind of help with this.Good luck to everyone trying to give up.

  • masturbation is not good

  • I started masturbating before I even knew what it was or that it was wrong. Now I’m a young adult and I understand it isn’t right. I’m always overwhelmed with remorse afterwards, it’s just so hard to stop. I’m going to college in a few months and I need to break this addiction before then. Plus, I met the most amazing guy. He’s saved himself for marriage completely. I don’t feel like I’m good enough for him.

  • I started wanking since I was 17. I am 34 though not married but have a partner who lives 400km away and we have sex just once in a month. I don’t like the idea of cheating and use that as an excuse to masturbate. I hate myself when am done. I have tried every known ways to stop this act but without any positive result (1month tops and I am back to it). At least 10 times a day even while on my job not bothering if I might be seen in act. I need help because it brings me negative energy each time I do it causing me to be stagnant, backward and have ill lucks. God really me cos I dying morally.

  • I have been doing it for 10 year,but now I want to stop it

  • have gone a week without masturbation for the first time in 9years am more determined than ever

  • I have done this for 12 years , wanna stop.

  • Well I believe there is a way we could help one another ,I’m also suffering from this addiction I have been in the act for years and am afraid I might never stop. What triggers my urge is when am bored or alone and I think we could help one another since we all suffer from the same problem,I propose if we could have like a group or something the we could talk abt our issue i.e like a Whatsapp group so when one of us gets the urge we could talk abt it in the group and distract one another till the urge passes

    • thats a great idea

    • Hi. Just curious, did group happen? I have been struggling with this since I was a teen and like many others had no idea it was wrong tell I got older. I know the advice is to talk to someone about it but I’m just to embarrassed and ashamed to discuss it with any of my close friends. But I really want to stop. I can only go a week without mastrubating and I’d really really like to go longer.

    • Yes it’s a great idear
      We all need to agree and creat a watsapp page so that we can advice each other from doing it.

  • I have been in masturbation a long time that is affecting my health, I have weight los, low sperm, watering sperm, memory los, poor vision, unable to have natural sex intercourse, sperm leakage. please you guys should help me please please

  • I have been experiencing the same addiction and I know there’s no way I can help myself but God. I believe the thing that triggers us most to do it is our thinking. And we all should start to track our thinking and ask God for help to Put Off evil thoughts and replace or put on Godly thoughts. I haven’t done it yet, but reading some comments here are a blessing. For me too it comes to mind when I’m bored, or dream something about sex, hear a word related to sexing, etc. Am I in a worst condition? Bringing this struggle before God as He has promised that His children are never losers.

    • This was the most helpful comment for me. Thank you. I agree that it is really a problem most with the mind. I don’t need anything external to trigger me. I can trigger myself with my own thoughts. It’s tough.

  • I’m a 34-year old woman. I started doing this in 2004, and it got pretty bad. I felt guilty about it even after the first time, but I couldn’t stop. Some night, I couldn’t go to sleep without it. I’ve been trying to stop ever since the first time. I know God doesn’t want me to do this. It’s not how He designed sex to be. I’m thankful for a husband who understands that I’m trying to quit. Unfortunately, he’s not super interested in sex himself. It’s like God wants me to fight this and get self-control instead of relying on him. The worst part is that I do even though my head screams at me that God hates it, but I do it anyway. Knowingly sinning is the worst of the worst. It isn’t even about the masturbating at that point. It damages my relationship with my God who loves me. There are days when I feel like I can’t even pray because I feel so guilty. I had made a little progress in the last few years. I was able to go 4-6 weeks sometimes without doing it. But now that I’m pregnant and there’s more blood flow down there and my hormones are crazy, it’s gotten worse again. It’s not like I help myself though- I think about terrible things that trigger myself. I don’t need porn or movies or anything. It’s all in my own nasty head. I give in to my thoughts and let them win. After each time, I tell myself that next time, I need to pray instead or get up or go to a public spot or tell my husband. But so far, I never listen to my own advice. If I don’t do it, it’s been just because I made an effort of will not to. That is…pretty difficult to say the least, but I do feel better about myself when I’m able to do that.

    • sorry,I Know how you really feel.if it’s in your nasty thoughts then you have to change the way of thinking
      consult a health therapist for further assistance

    • I suggest looking at some articles on the subject of masterbation and sexuality on Jehovah’s Witnesses site. They have helped me.
      As well when it comes to thoughts. Think of the birds. Can you stop them from flying over your head?
      Of course not!
      However, you can stop them from building a nest ON your head.

  • i have masturbated for long,I am dying pains every where please help

  • Hi my name Torviho Frank from Africa Ghana and I do like masturbation but look at my Christianity standing it seems to be a biggest sin in my life but to be honest with you I don’t know how to stop and I think it have a role to play with none having girlfriend but how can I be? If I have not self freedom, I’m really obsessed to myself and I need a serious help because it seems to me that it’s impossible to stop.

  • Reading all this comment give me some hope that I can stop masturbating, i have been doing this demonic acts since three years ago, but now am determined to stop and I pray God will help me to stop this stupid act.

  • I am a 21yr old female who has recently started masturbating (19). I can do it every day for hours at a time sometimes up to 4 hours continuously, or once a week for twice as long. I didn’t realize I had an addiction until recently. When I begin to masturbate I can’t stop. I lose sleep because of it and I never really feel relieved. Does anyone have any advice

  • Wow !
    There’s a demon behind the act of masturbation.
    You need believe in God to start, that Jesus is Lord,
    His Blood was shed on the cross of Calvary for the forgiveness and redemption of our sin.
    You now pray against the demon of masturbation to get out of your life both spiritual and physical.
    Make sure you read the Bible to build your faith so as to get results.
    May God help you all.

  • Wow
    I’d to say demons are behind the masturbation addiction or act .
    The only solution here is to seek the deliverance from God so one can be free the strong hold.
    First is to believe in God.
    Proclaim our Lord Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and savior.
    Check John 3:16-17.
    John 16: 33
    Jesus already overcone the world , that we all should be of good cheer !
    Pray fervently with faith .
    Pray against the the demon of masturbation to get out of your life both physical and spiritual.
    With faith it’s done.
    Precaution please read the Bible daily and keep Christian friend, it will help.
    Praise God!

  • I have been doing it for 10 year,but now I want to stop it

  • hey there! I am an athlete, i am just 14 yrs. i have been into masturbation for 2 yrs now. due to this, I am not able to focus in my game, my stamina becomes low and i am having acne all over my face . I haven’t talked about this to anyone just because I am scared if they might judge me. at the beginning , I tried many things to get rid of this mess but every time I tried I failed. i just wish u guys have some advise to give me

    • Hello! I’ve been reading all the comments and I think I related a lot with yours. I’m 30 years old, I starting to masturbate and watch porn and later camgirls at 13. I’ve been struggling with this for 17 years now. When I was younger, I used to masturbate a lot (4 or 5 times per day) and constantly I was sexualizing everything, which brought me problems to socialize. But, being honest, the thing that I most regret is how to masturbate affected my physical health; I used to play soccer and baseball and being good in both, but in the most important time, when you are developing your body and you must train a lot to exceed, I was expending most of my time lock in my house watching porn and masturbating.

      IF YOU LOVE TO DO SPORTS, please make this your main focus and priority, you are very young. Try, by all means, to find what trigger you the desire to masturbate and attack it. I blocked all the porn sites from my phone and from my computer, at the same time, when I feel the desire, immediately I do something else (some exercises, meditate, write) and, by all means, if you have a close friend, talk to him/her. I never had the opportunity or the confidence to talk about this when I was young, that’s why I telling you, talk to someone you trust.


  • I’ve been addicted to this Act since God knows how long, and its getting me scared…. I’m a guy that has everything most women would want in a man, but I really don’t pay minds to women, and i hardly keep relationships for long… Cus I have this belief I can satisfy (sexualy) whenever I want. Its getting out of hand, and I’m scared for the future…

  • I’m a 50yr bi male I have been addicted to masturbation for 40 years now. I masturbate 3 times a day and can’t stop! It’s not just porn I masturbate to fantasies in my mind. I grew up masturbate to porn with other friends. I think about masturbating every second of the day. I don’t know what to do. I am married and I even masturbate after having sex with my wife.

  • I belivr that one day I will get rid of all this activities and I would be a good person to my family and society.Dont worry a day is waiting for everyone ,so its a ki.d of dream which will succed onve in everyone life.If the dream is succeded sa y thanks to almighty god.amen.

  • Alright, so I’ve been doing the nasty since I was 12, multiple times a day, I’m almost 20 now, I still do it even today. I’m trying to quit, but I do it every couple of hours. I can’t control it. The longest I’ve went is like 2-3 weeks ever since I started. I’m literally looking for a way to curb this s**t. What’s even worse, I’m in the Army, coming back from a deployment, and now the urges are stronger than ever. I need help.

  • i am sufferin of this same addict,but i believe that as long as i have confess this ,this very moment, my God have take me off it.

  • Anytime I watch porn I do masturbate. Watching porn is an addiction and it always leads to masturbation. Please I need help. How do I stop watching porn?

  • I Am addicted to masturbation for almost 28 years.have try to stop but it has become had up to when am dating it has not been addicted to pornography have try to stop after three days i do again. when am not watching porno am just fine but the problem comes when i spent much time on phone watching the me guys how i come overcome the addiction of porno.

  • I think the shyness I have in approaching girl’s has made me to be addicted to since my high school up to now am in CampuS i do it 4_5 times a day even it has affected my right leg

  • I am young and have been exposed to a lot of sexual content when I was a child. I am in my late teens now and I realize that my sexual tendencies are hazardous to my relationships, both friendly and romantically. I have even gone to the point of secretly taking pictures of my classmates in college because it stimulates me a lot more than pornography because it is someone that I know and find attractive, and it disgusts me that I do that. I think that if I were to get the masturbation aspect under control, I could help the second part more as well. I want to know if there is anyway to get rid of the urge to do things that I simply shouldn’t do.

  • I’ve been very it for 4years now… I’m a student and going to someone is somewhat impossible. I know that I need help but can’t I talk/chat with the person online

  • i want really want to stop masturbating cuz i feel like am cheating on my partner

  • I am also suffering from this addiction since i was 15 years of age. Now i am 31 years. Almost 16 years passed. Each time i masturbate i feel guilty. I get drowned in the ocean if guilt. I also feel week after i masturbate. Every time i do it i decide that it will be my last time. But again after 2 -3 Days i end up watching porn and masturbating. I want to come out of this addiction. I want to look good. This article is helping me a lot. I think one day i will come out of this addiction.

  • am addicted to it but sometime i do over come wen the urge comes but it always take by the grace of God for me to overcome, pls i really need help & am ready to stop no matter wat it takes me to do.

    • Hi,I’m also addicted but here is an advice,try doing some thing during your free hours.and hangout more with friends then being alone,try read the bible and get to know god more trust me when I say,there will be a change in your life.

  • I need help I really want to stop this addiction of masturbation and porn watching each time I try always fall back of tired of the kind of life I am living

  • Medical quest brought me to start masturbating, ever since then it has been hell to quit. Please I need help… Will masturbate once or twice then stop for like a month before relapsing.

  • please I really need to stop this sinful masturbating attitude,I’ve been into it for years now.. please any advice would be welcome thanks

  • the craziest thing is that i dont just know how to stop this demonic act of watching porno, when ever am angry i start masturbating .
    its bex a long tine since i started masturbating ,and it has affected my life negatively in so many ways .
    expecially when it comes to social aspect .
    guys please if there anyone out there who can help me please i really need it ..

  • Need your help want mastrubation medcine to stop this

  • I have mastrubating for a long time. Some days I’ll mastrubate as much as three times. I’m like the rest of y’all l need help to stop. I’v been married for 10 years to very attractive lady and when lm around her I want sex even more. I think I could have sex all day long if possible but being a male this is not possible. This is taking all my focus away from my business and everyday life. If I could turn as much focus on more important things as I do on mastrubating I could be very wealthy. How do I get help?

  • I’m really scared now cause I don’t know where this is leading… I need serious help now.please. I’ve been doing this for the past 3years now..somebody help!!

  • I really find it hard to with go the habit but I find myself pushed back to it, letting go has been difficult and I don’t know really what to do. It’s prayer always that may that merciful God give strength to quit the habit but it’s ruining my life every now and then cos I can’t talk to anyone about it, I just find myself ashamed… Any constructive advice would be appreciated

    • I recentlt controlled it for one week. Today again i did the same. I had strong urge, then porn then masturbate. Three hours wasted. Now next time i will try it a bit harder . Avoiding masturbation for more than one month will be my next challange.
      Thank you all.

  • I’ve been masturbating since the age of 5. That’s was my earliest memory of it. I don’t know why or how but I’m tired of it. I don’t know if anything happened to me as a child but masturbating and feeling like you have no control over it is exhausting mentally and physically. I feel so disgusting afterwards and I always punish myself for it. I need help.

  • Hello I’ve been masturbating since I was 9 that was 21 years ago. I’ve tried to quit many times, 1st I found that I was ashamed and I burned all of my magazines. Then I decided I wanted to have a higher sex drive so I tried to abstain and ever since I burnt my magazines the longest I’ve been able to go is 2 to 3 days. I just got off work I’m 32 years old and I’m planning on masturbating When I get home. I don’t really feel ashamed anymore it helps me with depression. It’s nice to have a release. But I find the my desire for sex is going down. Sex is getting to the point where it’s not as desirable. What am I saying I love sex I want sex I just it’s never as exciting as I think it is going to be. After years of porne I find that my expectations far exceed the actual ality. I’m not overly religious… I believe in God but that’s a story for another time. I don’t know if I’m supposed to talk about this or what to do. I’m an intellectual and I’m Intra verted, I have a girlfriend but I’m not overly attracted to her. I think if I stopped masturbating I could perform better for her. I just really don’t know what to do. I think it’s time to stop, But I don’t want to. I don’t trust people anymore… I just want to do what feels good. Would love to talk to somebody.

  • The only difference between achieving and failure is quitting sometimes we feel that we are down but that’s not the real Truth.Masturbation can brainwash somebody tend to drive the desire we only want .But the real and the truth is for all those people who want to stop masturbation is it all start in the mind train the mind not to do it slow by slow it get used like how slow by slow you got to be addicted. Play with the psychology of the mind speak to your mind that you have a battle to fight,a battle that the writer wrote you as the star,so no matter what you must win.You have no choice but to win.
    This will not only be for being able to fight with the addiction but you will be able to fight more battle in the future.If only all the affected could look at the brighter future then we could prepare for better and not for worse.. If anyone would like us to face this together then you can reach me

  • Last time i masturbated 4days back. Today i was having strong urge to do it. But i controlled it because the guilt after doing that act is huge. I kept myself busy in my work, studies. I am trying to control it for 1 month this time. I am feeling good now.
    Good Night and take care all

  • I think you should leave this habit of masturbation. you will feel better. And also it will help you in maintaining good relationship with your girlfriend and maybe wife if you get married.

  • Am a 19 year old girl ,am also addicted to masturbating am trying to stop it but l cannot.l no longer want it, l usually regret myself after doing it l need help

    • I also have same problem of mustrubation so together will fight against this, i need real help please contact me i have been doing this past 20 years.

    • Hi! We can start now by helping ourselves through encouragement and regularly looking out for each other

  • I am victim too. My problem started one day when I was surfing the internet with my phone when it happened that i came into a certain pornography website. Since then my sexual life has been like (2012 till now). I have really try had to overcome it but i always fall back into this same temptation. It’s kind of a bondage, a war in my life. I want to stop it and I don’t know what to do and how to. am always down after am done with it, hate myself, depressed and worried. I have tried all I could but with no avail. It makes me cry.

  • Please I need help, I have been into masturbation for 10 years now since 2010, and it’s affecting me, I can’t even last upto 2 minutes in real sex, it’s has destroyed so many of my relationships, I really want to stop it by all means, I need help please

  • I’ve been masturbating since I was a teen. I grew up in a Mormon household, so there was some measure of shame felt. After leading home and stopping religious activities, I found my shame at the deed went away. I’ve never really felt there was anything wrong with it, brings an acknowledgement that I masturbated in excess.

    It wasn’t until my first marriage that I found out one of the consequences of frequent, excessive masturbation was, at least for me: I couldn’t orgasm from sex. At least not easily.

    I feel no shame, depression, guilt, etc. It is undoubtedly a problem for me, one I need to overcome.

  • Please I really need help been masturbating since 19 am I am 20 not usually every day but I feel really bad and I want to stop it and I never used my hand to masturbate I put my d between my lap and do….I even do in when I’m with people because they won’t know….. Please I need help….

  • I had been addicted to masturbation since I was about 15 years old. I masturbated at least 5 times a week since then. I am 26 years old now. Recently I found the love of our Savior, Jesus Christ and, through prayer, attending church weekly and studying scriptures at least once a day. Amazingly, I was found myself clean from masturbation for 8 months! I never thought I would be able to accomplish that. However, I found as I started to skip scripture study every now and then, I began to slip and I have masturbated maybe five times over the past five months. I know that I can continue abstaining as long as I start committing to regular scripture study and remember to pray regularly! My wife is very understanding and supports me through everything. I am thankful for our Father in Heaven and I know, without a doubt, that he can help us all with this!

  • I have been doing for the pass 5yrs and hate doing that, I don’t know what to do anymore, some one help me

  • You dont have to look at porn to have the desire to masterbate,im think it has more to do with Hormons,
    Ever human on Earth has them,I think some foods trigger HORMONES, like soybean,which has Estrogen,I am 55 an have fought the desire to masterbate since I was 7yrs old.I sought God on this all my life,I found no where in Gods Word that says masterbation is a sin,

    • Im a female and I’m 11 and have had the desire to masterbate since I was nine I haven’t been able to talk about it to anyone because I was so embarrassed yet every time it happens it makes me want to cry and I feel like a terrible person I’m also pretty sure I have depression

  • Am suffering from it since many years ago, I do hate my life after it, and it’s also affecting my love life, I don’t know what to do, pls I need help.

  • Hey I need some one to help am asexual adict and I masturbate to be satisfied but people I have started facing difficult in urinating and sex sperm in my urine..plz am called Joseph 18yrs from Uganda Africa I need help

  • I am also having a bad habbit to masturbate…And I had quitted it since 2 years .It was very difficult for me today quit masturbation.

  • i am so much addict to masturbation even i tried to leave it for a month but it didn’t cross 20 days when a plot comes in mind to matbt. we are often frustrated and urge it out lastly by doing it. I even don’t watch porn videos.

  • I always try to stop but i could not, i dont always masturbate everyday may be foristance if i do it do may be two or three weeks that pleasure comes, and i know dat i can stop it but i need yr directions and prayer help me

  • I have been into this for more than 15 years and have everything I know to come out of it but I still find myself in it.pls I need help

  • whenever I masturbate I feel guilty, I get low self esteem
    I started this 5yrs ago n life doesn’t seem normal as it used to be, whenever I see a Lady I start imagining her naked,just because of watching a lot of porn.
    buh masturbation has caused me alot of stress
    I really want 2 get rid of this vice

  • It happen to my guy he cant do without masturbating a week it almost ruin our relationship. Plz i need ur help

  • I am 32 yr male, so badly engrossed in masturbation since more than 4 years after my break up. I do it daily and even 1-3 times mostly. I tried so hard to stop but all gone in vain. The disasterous effect of masturbation eventually I relaized when I did not get proper erection while trying for sex recently with my girlfriend. This happened at multiple times we met. She is beautiful and hot. It was so emabarassing to me. Even if i got some erection it was too lose and short timed. There was the days I used to have so good erection and so wonderful sex life with my ex, but this excessive masturbation somewhere definitely ruined me inside. Guys, beleive me overmasturbation plays such a deterimental effect on your mental and sexual health, probably not less than alcohol/drug addiction, no matter how many articles you would have read on net that masturbation is normal and have no harm. I am the living example. I am still struggling to get over it. I feel now scared even to think about marrying or having a girlfriend, seeing my present sexual performances. Now my only saviour is GOD, going to renounce him with full faith. I pray for each one of you to get over this addiction soon…

  • I’ve Been In This Acty For 5years But Now I’ve Started Hating My Self About This Cos It Is Affecting Me Emitionally,physically,spiritually And Mentally.

  • I’ve been a victim sins 2010. I’ve been doing my best to stop porn and masturbation, I would cry, pray but still I find myself in the act again
    but from what I have read today I don’t think I’ll be going back to masturbation. I’m rilli sad to know dat these desires are ruining our lives but I think we should make up our mind not to visit any porn site, remove anything dat triggers porn and masturbation desires in us And do our best to say this Wen such negative desires come to mind. “I sweep all the elements of porn and masturbation out of my mind and burn it to ashes as it is, today I am no longer a slave to porn and masturbation in Jesus name Amen”.

    This is what I will be doing I’m really sad. I’m marking it today to always remember it.

    We shall all overcome it name. Amen

    • We believe in you! And what matters even more is that you believe in you! And with the great power of the Lord on your side, you can do this! Pray daily for strength and note when you are tempted and make it a point to read the Bible as soon as you arrive home alone, for instance, or put on some inspirational, classical, or gospel music. That’s what I do and it works! And don’t forget to thank the Lord every time he helps you overcome a temptation. Each time you do this, he will strengthen you even more against the adversary!

  • this all started when i was sophomore, it happened at night and i wasnt watching porn i just didnt it was my first time then it went to looking a pics nd then now its porn and i wanna stop this before it gets worse im embarrassed to tell my friends i think of doing the act of masturbation even at school sometimes or even when im playing video games or in the shower it makes me wanna hate myself but i really wanna stop REALL BAD before it gets worse. i havent told anyone and i thought this would help get this off my chest nd maybe be a way to stop

  • I am surprised to hear that there are so many people with the same addiction. I am 74 and was exploited at 13 or 14. I was very naive and innocient. I became almost suicidal at times with guilt and could not talk to anybody. I have struggled through life where it has taken up so much of my time and caused so much mood swings and held me down in so many ways. I think it stunted my maturity for many years. I felt I did not have control of my own mind most of all these years. I think I was lucky in that I met good women that I cared for and it helped me to get more control of myself and kept going.I am trying just now with all my best concentration to get out of it. I cant sleep every night without doing it. It makes me so angry with myself .Enough for now.

  • I don’t want to believe that I’m an addict like all of you here but truthfully speaking I am.I started with this act at a very young age (12) and I was introduced to it by my two cousins
    I blame myself for continuing because right now its really bas,I watch porn on the bus and masturbate in shopping malls damn.But for some reason I still believe that I can beat this addiction.

  • I started at 13 and I’m 14
    I hate myself after it plus I’m Christian so I feel I’m gonna go to hell and I always feel weird after like have fast breathing. Ot is that normal. IDK but it s**ks I used to do it everyday but stretched it to probably 1 time a week now so I feel kind of better

  • Hey Guys.Y’all need to stop
    Worrying about musturbation addiction.the only way is to pray to God whenever you feel tempted may you all quit in Jesus name.

  • I just got engaged (super excited), but as part of that, I’m determined to break this addiction.

    It’s been 3 weeks now, and I can already see a change on my life – I’m happier, and she’s commented, “I can’t explain it, but you seem more into me!”.

    I almost caved tonight, but I’ve told myself that I always want to be able to say that I haven’t jerked it since before we got engaged.

    Create a date with some signifigance, make the decision to STOP, and scroll through these comments whenever you get the urge!

    Also, I know it’s serious, but people saying masterbation is the devil just made me think of Bobby Boucher’s mom in The Waterboy haha

  • Sorry Trey but my story sounds the same as yours i want to get rid of it too

  • i am 13 and i am trying to stop wanting to masterbate but it is something i have to have help from someone else

  • I masturbates once a day,
    do that means am an addict?

  • I am also a victim other it since high school . I have tried all I coUldale to stop but I can’t imagine think I lack self control and I’m beginning to hate myield
    I really want to stop
    Please I really need help

  • My boyfriend is addicted to masturbation because we were apart for 6 months. Now we’re back together but he only cums when he msturbates and not during sex. It’s affecting us and we need help

  • Masturbation is not my addiction. Sex and woman is. 🙁 I get turned on easily :'( . Masturbation is just a way to escape for me. Any idea how to evade this ?

  • I’ve been masturbation since 6 years . since the first week i hate my self and i didn’t know what to do , how to stop , i try many thing , i try to keep my mind busy but even when i do something else i think about masturbation and it’s end me go back to bed and masturbation . i really hate myself for that , i want to batter in collage but because of this i go back down .
    i can’t have a professional help and i try to talk to friend but i feel shame .
    it’s really sad that you only feel that you want to talk to someone for help and to feel less guilty .

  • I started when I was 5 after I was first sexually abused. Is there anyone else who started so young in the same circumstances? I have so often felt alone.

  • Hmmmm! It’s really something else in one’s life. I have suffered this the past 23years. But I realise it gets better when am engaged in an activity. It feels very embarrassing after the act. Much loneliness is one major cause. Pornography is another outstanding cause of masturbating.I cant imagine how happy I will be without this disgrace. It is demonic and will take the intervention of the Holy Spirit. Amen!

  • It is just too painful such that I can’t concentrate on anything unless I do it…when having sex I Neve cum not until I touch myself so I cum… right now feel like doing it..but I’m trying to do something that will keep me busy..I’m in need of help

  • I’ve been masturbaiting for almost four years now. I’m so ashamed to say it and it’s probably my biggest secret. It seemed like a good idea at first and I thought it was harmless but now I’m addicted. It makes me so upset I’m sad for days on end and I don’t want to eat after I do it. Ugh it’s awful I hate it and i feel so guilty for it. I just don’t know what to do.

  • It sounds like many people on this forum have a wife or girlfriend. Something that has really helped with my wife and I is to keep the conversation open, she encourages me to always let her know how I am doing and she is very supportive! Sex was created by God for reproduction and sharing love with an eternal partner. When you think about sex like this, and your love for your partner and even try putting yourself in your partners shoes, you will be able to overcome this! Never stop praying for help and remember to thank Him when you have had success! He will bless you with self control, confidence, and happiness in life! Everyone here is a child of God and I believe in all of you 100%!!

  • I started masturbating when I was 9years old, am now 20 but I have failed to stop, whenever I try I eventually fail, all my relationships can’t last long because I lose interest after a few weeks due to masturbation. I have low self esteem, I have no confidence. I really need help to overcome this addiction, it’s now 11 years doing the act. I feel this might affect my reproductive organs.

  • am just starting to lose self esteem and confidence because of masturbation…its now 12years …i have even found it difficult to date…i need your help?!!

    • I have same problem as you, can’t date not even bothered to chase girls. I need to stop masterbating but I have no idea how. Only mental strength can help us. Its really a big problem

  • I too having the same suiation on masturbating,but am trying to stop and still going back to it, i want stop it by all means no what it cost.

  • I am an porn addicted I masturbate every day I start it in 14, now in 17 I still doing it sometime I masturbate twice a day I hate my self of being porn addicted masturbate cause my hair loss I feel pain in my back I can’t see clearly from far away please help me

  • I’ve spent almost 2hrs reading only these comments. Masturbating since age 13 for about 6 years now even before knowing the word “masturbation”. What I hate most from this apart from depression and guilt is that even as a worker in the church -a keyboardist I feel my services to God is just a waste. This has affected all areas I mean all of my life. Even my academics. This made me loner. I ask God for forgiveness after this act but still fall into it even few hour after.
    But I’ve stayed about 6 months without masturbating only once. And it became worst after that. And worse even now! But for those time without this addiction, I think masturbation is a spirit that influence the way we live, and that is why you get possessed through some thing-porn movie or anything else. But I think commitment is serving God and developing spiritually the Holy Spirit of The Almighty God is greater that the spirit of masturbation.

  • I also have the same problem especially during bathing and at night when I want to fall a sleep

  • I have the same compulsory disorder and it goes along with many other stress relieving methods like biting fingernails or playing video games. Altogether the stress is what is most severe when I don’t have an outlet, but guys there is might be a solution for you: go to a psychologist, tell him that you have trouble dealing with fears, because they prevent you from performing simple tasks without the urge to escape. This is what i told mine, because i had been missing 4 classes to finish my BA for 3 years – and wasnt able to finish (which was a joke), because it had built up into such a big mountain of problems haunting me. After some sessions he suggested to take the lowest dose of an anti-depressant called Citalopram to see if this helps. And at first i felt reborn into the person i had always wanted to be, but man i had the full list of side effects. what bothered me most, was that i got impotent almost instantly, and it took some time to recover. I stopped taking the meds after 2 months, and the psychologist didn’t have a clue what he was prescribing. He also stopped answering the phone (and i wasn’t pushy or so, he called 2 months later so i guess had some issues himself). Anyways, after reading a lot about Citalopram‘s side effect, it is clear to say that a high percentage of users will have a decreased sexual stimulus to varying degrees. This f**ked up my relationship, because my partner didn’t understand that i love her but just can’t get a boner. It helped in all other areas of my life, i became the person i wanted to be. I called it buddhist wisdom in pill format, because after years of trouble falling asleep, i just did without the need to kill my unwanted thoughts. It killed my empathy though, and this in combination with my sexdrive going to 0 was inflicting too much damage. So i stopped. I took it about 2 months, and it felt like a door had opened in my head. I finished university. I went straight for what i wanted and cleared up some mess in my head. It really helped me, and maybe it will help you too. Just not my thing, as i saw something good in my personality and didn’t want to loose it. So i learned to love myself, but yeah, i still have anxiety issues. Ps: there is also a newer brand of this drug called Escitalopram. I seems to have less strong side effects. Pps: ask a doctor for side effects, to not run into unwanted issues. If you are not suicidal, then i would recommend trying this path if all other attempts have failed. Because the solution of your problem might be just waiting for you. If you are suicidal though, avoid Citalopram. Ppps: this drug is intended to be accompanied by a behavior therapy. It will not change your life, you will have to do this yourself. But it can really help you with your therapy if you feel to weak and keep bouncing back. Pppps: Citalopram is a level medication, meaning you will have to take it every day for an extended period of time for it to take effect. Good luck everyone!

  • Pray to God. That helps. No matter what beliefs you have, no matter how much you hate yourself, God loves you and He is willing more than anyone to help you. And He will. Just ask Him. Furthermore, you have a part that you have to do in order to overcome. Remove anything that eventually leads you to masturbation. Whether it’s music, movies, games, pornography, bad companies etc. Say ‘NO’ to this things. On the other side, try doing good things like using your time to do something useful, helping someone in need, care for others. This way the temptation of masturbation will have no means to get you if you are busy. You will experience something that you never had. You will notice that you overcame. And the satisfaction then, will be a lot more great than the pleasures of sensuality. You will be blessed. Why? Because this is how God works.
    May He help you!

    1 Corinthians 10:13 “No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.”

  • I was introduced to sex at a very young age by a relative so when I got to around 14/15 I started masturbating I am now 15 so been doing it for around 10 years now.The thing is I don’t consider it evil neither do I feel evil or ashamed when I do it what I feel is guilt I have had a couple of relationships and the last one made me start wanting to quit this addiction it has messed up my sexual life I can’t keep an erection for long and even prematurely ejaculating..I have tried to quit a couple of times but end up relapsing but reading the comments has given me new hope!!

  • I have been suffering from this issue from a very young age. I have tried to control myself a lot but I guess the desire always overcome my will power. It makes me feel sleepy whole day and guilty through out. I have not been able to control this more than 3 days in a row from last 18 years and I guess it is a lot of time. If I hold it longer my brain plays games with me which has been trained to behave like this but still I have not kneel down in front of my desire. I will try to fight this and change my thoughts, perception. I will suggest the same to you. Keep your spirit and will power high. Quitting this Habit can take time but will definitely go.

  • I started masturbating wen I was in secondary school,i was introduced into sex,and I got addicted to sexing,so if there is no one to ve sex with den I do it myself

  • I am a twelve year old girl and I started masturbating, at first I didn’t know what it was or why I was getting this urge but now I still do it and can’t understand, can someone please explain

  • My girlfriend has an addiction we’ve been dating for 8 months and in the first month I knew something was up cuz I was like no one does it this much but I just let it go because it was only a month then I found out that she was watching porn everyday 4-5 times a day while in a relationship with me for the first 3 months and felt hurt and insecure because she was watching guys with 12 in + and I was hurt she was watching it while she has me. She cried in my arms told me she would stop and said she would never do it again swore on her dead grandpas life she wouldn’t then 2 days later back to the porn and masterbation I found out later on recently then she did it again on our 5 months and said she was just “watching” it and not beating off to it but then I was going to leave because of this addiction she has I was so fed up with the lies and the hurt i wanted out but I knew it was a problem I still feel like she’s lying to me about it but she says shes changing this time she did talk to her therapist about it 3 weeks ago I don’t know if she’s still doing it because we don’t live together I still feel like she could be hiding it from me and doing it again but she cries to me and says she tells me everything any that I should trust her I just don’t know what’s different this time. I try my hardest to help her and I don’t know what else to do it hurt me bad and I just want her to get help she says she’s stopped because she doesn’t want to lose me but I don’t know what happens when I’m not there my trust is completely ruined because of this we’re both 18 btw someone please help me what can I do should I leave and not have to worry anymore and find someone else or should I stay and still get hurt over and over again I love this girl to death and I only want what’s best for her she really doesn’t know what she has until it’s gone and I don’t want it to be that way we’re on a break because of it and I’m just scared of what’s to come what I’ll find out after this month break

  • Am this kind that whenever the urge comes on me, all that I feel inside of me is “Do this and satisfy yourself it’s nothing bad” but immediately after the act, I feel so so ashamed of myself.

  • I have small penis just 2inch only still dono how to forget masturbation and porn addiction and it severely damaged my entire life without getting any job still at the age of 30 dono how to overcome my life positively:(..many chat room ask about dying dono how to move life positively dono where to go and get the solution for my life

  • I am addicted to masturbation and am attempting to not do it for a whole month does anyone have any tips?

  • Please is there a drug or injection that can render my manhood useless for at least three years. I’ve prayed to god several times in the church to at least render my manhood useless for just three days, but sadly no answer and I’ve been masturbating for about eighteen years now,I don’t even have time to approach a girl but now I’m afraid live my whole life without a wife talkless of children. I’ve tried all I could but I always return after some days. Though I still have long lasting erection but I know I’m not doing the right thing. Please any drug or injection would be really appreciated. Thanks in advance

  • I am 14. I had started masterbating at the age of 11. Its impossible to stop it. I feel weak..less concentration..i am an intelligent student and stand 1st in my class. But this thing is interfaring too much in my life..what to do??

  • What up guys. I am a teen and it is becoming a problem u know ….bating and I even feel embarrassed saying it, but I am trying to stop. As said previously it can affect your dating life and even your social life as a whole. Having said that I just thought why not write down a list of words that would have described u then and write down a list for now. In my case I went from extremely social and confident to being a loner and being very secretive. Having written my list I have now made it a mission to get back to those words that used to describe me and abandon the ones that describe me now. Try by all means to get back even if it embarrasses u at times for me that wld help regain my confidence. For me another problem is thinking about girls and dating. If this is also your problem I have noticed that it helps to talk to the girls. This I hope will disable that part of my thoughts and help me see girls as other people and not
    football field sized diamonds and any girl
    who reads this please do not get me wrong I mean no disrespect. Anyway thinking less of these things will help u forget and after some time you’ll rarely think of the things that tempt u. I hope I have helped someone. Most basic thing I almost forgot is to read your bibles and pray for the guidance and everything will go flawlessly

  • the fact that you are here means you’re a step away from walking out of this mess. We have to first believe God can help us, the abstain from anything that’s capable of triggering this bad habit. God help us all.

  • hi im 15 years and ive been masturbating since i was 12..i feel empty after doing it anytime

  • Seriously mine is worst. I started masturbating since am 8yrs. Till now am almost 23 am still masturbating, I masturbated till I started having night fall, high blood pressure, heart pains nd also being anxious all the type. I sicked for help nd promised my self that I won’t masturbate again but at the end of the day I will find my self masturbating, even as I sending this massage I have already masturbated,
    Seriously I need help, I need to stop it, I have even prayed nd ask God to help me out, but I believe that one day my prayer will be answered help. Seriously I dont want to die masturbating.

  • Hi all,
    I am going to be 30 next month. And I am suffering this from my childhood. It may sound strange . But true. Exaculation happened at maturity. But fanciful ideas where there from childhood. Now condition is very pathetic. Physical and mental health is severely damaged. Vision is detoriating. In short, life beacame hell. Please help.

    • monu hope you havent lost your trust in God,all will be well ,for you to stop that you must pray to God ask him for help in resisting the urge but first things first admit it to the almighty that you have gone against his will and repent off first .secondly if you watch too much porn try and erase all things that will bring your mind back to the lustfull desire .your female friends and male friends play a major role .if you find yourself talking too much of sex on whatsup and watching and video calling fellow friends while nude try as much as possible to reflect back and delete them off make new friends ,read achapter of the bible everyday,go to the gim,take walks and try any sport activity when the urge comes,believe3 me its really hard but ones you stay focused nothing will obstruct you,the devil is always aound watching you and the moment the succubus and incubus will get hold of you ,you will know it the hard way.out of expirience vi will tell you this early its never too late to stop.i did it when i was 13 years of age after joining highschool ,did it for 9 years till i met the unknown ,i would feel the urge i would do it inside my car anywhere anytime ,the devil was watching me ,one day i woke up with my tshirt off i was sweating thats the time i realised it wasnt me but the demons ,the moment i realised i felt a sharp pain in my penis, i took over my bible started reading and praying it dawned on me that when i stpped the demons would sleep on my stomach asking for more i could feel them , i would pray everytime i slept and the urge could come i wpould wake up and call the name of jesus go out and run come back pray and sleep i didnt fear the demons eventually i knew i had had f**ed up and only G0D WOULD DELIVER ME till now i have never done it and the urge left never saw it again god granted me peace and today am an addict of the word of God all is possible masturbations is a devils path and they like it very much before its too late ask God for guidance

  • Hello am 19 years old started masturbating at an early age but now badly wants to stop it. I really need help because i can’t settle down in a serious relationship. I hate myself. I need somebody to talk to since i am embarrassed telling it to anyone since i come from a Christian family. All my friends are Christians. I have tried to stop this bad habit gone even for 4 months but later I come back to it. The last time I masturbated about a week i
    Or more ago i got really sick. I don’t feel like any man can love me unconditionally.

  • Hi I’m Aiden and I gave been doing that since I was 10 I am 14 now and have been doing it all most everyday since and I am very ashame and wanted to see if anyone had any advice.

  • I do it ‘ when I 12yr old my friend say me for this, and I try this is feel good in starting but after the scene i loose my overall energy and my full day is spend in Sandness or dull situation
    Now I am 21 but I can’t stop myself I have premium porn accounts more than 12 websitesю when I try to stop this it’s possible for me only 3 or 4 days my iq goes to very low in exam I can’t remember things properly i always think stories of porn it very difficult for me to leave this addiction

    “please help me”
    Send me tips that’s actually work

  • Hmm is not easy to I have started masturbation at age 14 now am 21 yet still I find difficult to get out of it
    At times I try my best to control my self for 2-3months then all of a sudden am into it again please I need help

  • My name is David and I am 50 years old. I have been masturbating since I was 12. If you know me or met me for the first time you’d never guess that chronic masturbation and masturbating to porn literally controls my daily activities. In the past two years it has gotten much worse by using Viagra to help masturbate even more. Yesterday, like so many times before, was my first day of abstinence. It was extremely difficult! By the end of the day I was so emotionally exhausted I fell into my wife’s arms and cried. In the past two years my sex life has completely vanished. Masturbating was my primary outlet for sexual gratification. This also led to sexual desires for family members, friends, other men’s wives. It has gotten so bad that I use porn as a sort of resource depending on who or what I am desiring. However, I’ve finally reached a dead end, a breaking point. I am exhausted. I’ve wasted countless hours, days, and years masturbating and looking at porn and I am tired. I’ve decided that only I can break this cycle. I’ve decided to stop masturbating. Today is day two…wish me luck!

  • I’m a addict too, have been masturbating for about 15 years now, it hasn’t been easy, have tried all possible best to stop but still I relapsed back to it, i talked to my eldest Bro about it and he’s helping me out in fighting this addiction away.. I have gone three weeks without masturbating but recently due to the severe urge, i relapsed but that won’t stop me from giving up, i will continue the race and i know i will surely win. I believe with prayer and discipline we can all put a stop to it.. I think we should create a whAtsapp group so we can help one another in fighting this addiction together

  • Wow. I didn’t know so many people have the same story. Thanks to everyone for sharing. I remember being about 3 when I first got in trouble for this habit. Now I’m 31 so that makes about 28 years..or more. It makes me sad and like a failure. I’m scared of what I’ve probably done to myself. I too have felt the despondence over and over and over again…I’m remorseful and wanting a change. That’s how I came across this page. Thanks for your comments, prayers, and opportunity to share. I’m hopeful that I’ve taken the first step to recovery here

  • i started this experience when iam 12 years old now iam 24 but till i have been masturbating, so i need the way i will out from this evil experience. please counseling me. around our their is no psychological treatment for this

  • I never knew there were people like me… I have been a slave to this for the past two years…Trying to stop this has been the most difficult thing i have tried doing all my life, no matter how hard i try i keep falling back..i am just 21, and it is really affecting me emotionally and psychologically.. I have prayed , i have fasted against it, all to no avail… Please i need help, i really do.

  • Its been four years down the line. Struggling with masturbation aint a simple task. I too for the four years av been struggling with it. I beliecmve wgen we join hands we can help each out. Lets come together, publish the causes leading to masturbation, side effects, recovery methods, have monitor partners and also form a forum where we can educate pple suffering from this. Lets make a change. Both genders we can do it.

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