Sex Addiction Signs and Symptoms One Needs to Know
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“My name is Charlie, and I’m a sex addict.” Sounds harmless and fun. I mean, sex is necessary for the survival of the human race. Sometimes, it can bring pleasure and is a source of intimacy.
In some cases, and even a source of inspiration for many. However, just as they say, an excess of everything is bad. Even the most pleasurable activity isn’t excluded! Sex addiction is a real thing. Let’s investigate more.
How Can Sex Then Possibly Go Wrong?
This disorder can dilute the intimacy and exquisiteness of lovemaking. As a result, it causes an unnatural mania with seeking, observing, or engaging in sexual acts. We call it sex addiction. Experts claim that people with a sex addiction will go to extremes. This way, they can satisfy their fantasies, regardless the consequences.
What Exactly Is a Sex Addiction?
Sexual addiction is compulsive sexual behavior. NCBI.gov reports that sexual addiction is an emerging psychiatric disorder. They state that sex addiction can have significant medical and psychiatric consequences.
People with sex addiction, can’t manage their sexual behavior. Therefore, they obsess over sexual thoughts. Unfortunately, it is to the extent that it interferes with many parts of the person’s life. They include workability, relationships, and other daily activities. When sex impairs other areas in someone’s life, it becomes a problem.
Sex Addiction Signs
The first thing one needs to ask oneself is whether one worries about sexual behavior. Did someone else express their concern about sexual behavior? Then, a person might want to consider this topic.
People who were victims of sexual abuse as a child or adolescent could be in danger. In fact, they might have a higher chance of developing sexual behavioral issues later in life. The same goes for kids who witness their parents having trouble with sexual behavior.
Other questions one can ask oneself to see if there are any sex addiction signs include:
- Does one often find one’s mind preoccupied with (even decent) sexual thoughts?
- Has one ever at some point felt that sexual behavior is not normal?
- Did one ever feel guilty about personal sexual behavior after doing the deed?
- Has one’s sexual behavior ever caused problems for one or family?
- Did one’s sexual obsession ever hurt someone emotionally?
- Are any of one’s sexual activities against the law?
- The age-old question – has one ever tried to quit a certain sexual activity, but failed?
- Does one ever hide sexual activities from others?
- Has one, as a person, ever felt degraded because of a sexual act or activity?
- Does one feel depressed after sex?
- Does one ever feel that sexual desire controls one?
- Has one neglected other parts of life because sex was consuming most of time?
- Is sex almost all one can think about?
- Has one ever used sex to escape from the problems?
- Has sex become the single most important factor in life?
- Is one in crisis due to sexual matters?
- Has the internet ever created sexual problems in one’s relationships? On the other hand, has one been spending too much time online for sexual purposes? This includes subscribing to pornography, ‘’renting’’ someone to satisfy sexual desires?
- Had sexual intercourse of any sort with a minor?
- Stayed in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship. Did one do it just for the sex?
- Traded sex for money or gifts?
- Maintained multiple sexual relationships at a time?
- Engaged in an unsafe sexual activity, knowing that it could cause harm?
When One Is In a Relationship WITH a Sex Addict?
Did a person ever worries about having relations with a sex addict? Currently, there are always signs of sex addiction to look out for. Simple tell-tale signs could bring one closer to the truth:
- Lie all the time?
For example, telling that on is working late but comes home reeking of alcohol?
- Cheat on someone? Not only once, consistently, probably maintaining multiple relationships at once.
- Masturbate too much, even after sex?
- Does the kinky stuff become all-encompassing? And one gets pushed out of comfort zone, never having ‘’normal’’ sex?
- Has to be in control all the time. Whether one gets any pleasure from the sexual encounters or not, the partner doesn’t care.
- Flirts with others – all the time. For a sex addict, this is a way of ‘’getting off’’, or grooming potential victims.
- Blames one for being a sex addict. Especially when confronted, a sex addict will often manipulate the situation.
Dangers of Sex Addiction
Sex addiction is like any other addiction. In fact, it includes dangers for oneself and others. A few of these include:
- Sexual Transmitted Disease or Infection
- Diminishing self-esteem
- Lack of intimacy due to the fear of judgment by others
- Inability to nurture healthy relationships
- Legal issues (un-consensual sex, prostitution, etc.)
- Co-occurrence of other addictions, such as alcoholism.
Sex Addiction vs. Drug Addiction
Just like with any other addiction, sex addicts can experience a high. First, they will get it through their compulsive sexual behavior. Then, they can also develop a dependence on this feeling.
Furthermore, they will suffer from withdrawal when going without sex. Sex also produce chemical alterations in the brain. Similarly, like any other addiction causes a rush.
Other Sex Addiction Signs
Signs of sex addiction, like any other addiction, include:
- Repeated, compulsive seeking for sexual activity.
- Participating in sexual activity, even when it can lead to danger for oneself and others.
- Withdrawal when going without sex for a period.
- Tolerance – a sex addict can tolerate just about any sexual activity. This is even if it includes physical or emotional pain.
Overcoming Sex Addiction
The success in overcoming a sex addiction lies in three factors. This is according to health experts. A person should develop them all properly after seeing sex addiction symptoms.
First, don’t lie to the partner. Then, don’t even lie to oneself about sexually addictive activities. These include rationalizations or blatant lies about whereabouts. With proper guidance, a person can be completely honest about sex addiction.
Everything takes effort, dealing with addiction even more so. Of course, approaches based on guilt and scare tactics won’t help to gain control. In many ways, a sex addict already deals with feelings of shame and guilt. A sex addict needs help, not humiliation.
Conventional forms of therapy rely on a variation of forms of repression. However, a sex addiction can’t be overcome by repression alone. First, invest time in proper research. Then, go to meetings and decent therapy sessions to help overcome addiction.
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